I need a WOMANS advice please?

Question

I lost my mum a few years back and I am now living with my dad and my younger sister.

My dad is an old fashioned sort of guy, and said to me the other day that when the time is right I have to teach my sis about girl things, like tampons and all that stuff.

I haven't a clue what to do, or say, does anyone know what i should do?

Answer 1

well it might be very embarassing for your sister to have a male member of the family discuss this sort of thing especially seeing as it is a sensitive issue. Isnt there a close female relative who could do this?

IF not, i suggest you educate yourself on the female anatomy and everything else such as periods, s*x, boys, body changing, emotions and what not. Then just tell her.  But bring it on gently, use code words like birds and bees.

Answer 2

to me there are 2 choices. one is do you have any female relatives you and your dad (and sis) would be comfortable with them talking to your sis and the other is as hard as it mite seem what a wonderful gift you could give your sis by helping her at this time. you can do it. i know. been thru it. if you choose to discuss all those femine things and such, would help to get info (from web or otherwise) have some things ready if she wants to read them. if you talk to her best thing is to just talk natural like its all very normal experiences and matter of fact. ( even tho mite not seem natural to u. lol) good luck and what a great brother.

Answer 3

If you have relatives, such as close aunts or cousins who are female, ask them politely to help you talk to her. What she really needs when the time comes is a female(who she is comfortable talking to and being around, the closer the better) who can relate to what she is going through. However, if this is not possible, her friends will help. Just let her know that you are there if she needs help. Chances are, she won't want to talk about it anyways.

Answer 4

Well since im guessing your a guy that its not going to be comfortable for you to talk to her about it.. you don't want to make her uncomfortable..if there is a aunt or maybe if you have a girlfriend she can teach her what she needs to know.. someone she feels like she can trust no affence but a guy telling a girl about tampons and all girl things isn't right..... but there is a paper in the tampon box that she can read and it will tell her what she needs to know about Tampons.. Best of Luck to you and your sister.

Answer 5

I think you'd be better off getting a female relation or a close friend to talk to your sister about this - it really isnt a mans job hun - not only will it make you uncomfortable, but it will make her uncomfortable also....

xx

Answer 6

http://www.likeitis.org.uk/periods.html

Answer 7

Hello, do you have an aunt or older cousin? If not do you have an older female family friend if so maybe they can mentor your little sister, girls need a female in their life it do not have to be a mom. Do your family attend church? if so, one of the elder mothers or sisters can help in this area.

GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 8

ok here's what i think you should do. have a close friend or a cousin or even an aunt come over and talk to your sister, and try to listen and understand what's happening. once you learn a little bit, you can research the menstrual cycle and all the changes in the female body, and you'll be able to help your sister much better :)

and when you're talking to her, don't make it awkward! talk about it like you'd talk about rice or something that's not  very important , but it may have a large impact on your sister :)

- best of luck =] Ravina.

Answer 9

My sister taught me all about that because my mom couldn't be arsed to do it. Just get a box of tampons, pull out the insert of paper and it will give her instructions. Then, google some information. Make it light and fun but make sure you tell her everything.

Answer 10

Get a friend who is a girl to come over and help out because its impossible for a man who knows nothing about it to explain it plus she will understand more from a girl knowing that it only happens to girls.. At school teachers normally talk to girls about this sort of thing in s*x education lessons also x

Answer 11

Maybe find a close girl friend of yours/that she knows to tell her about that stuff..  someone she would feel comfortable talking to.  then she would also have someone to look up to :)

choose carefully though; you want to set a good example for her

Answer 12

You need to take her to a female doctor for that kind of help. You can just give her boy advice.

Answer 13

Have you got a female friend you can ask to help you? If not maybe try a doctor or family planning type clinic, or library or the good old internet. It's all quite basic stuff, I think it's more the awkwardness that can make it a bit tricky, good luck :o)

Answer 14

I'm pretty sure your sister can find out about that stuff at school.  Also, there's always the Internet.  I don't think boys should have to cover uncomfortable topics like that with girls.  That's like girls sitting down and discussing puberty with boys.  It just doesn't happen.

Answer 15

won`t buy her a book called  my body,myself for girls by Lynda madaras  it teaches them about their body

Answer 16

I am sorry you lost your mother. Like the others said, if there is female your sister is comfortable with, that may be best. Or the school nurse. Do you have any aunts or cousins. Or maybe her best friends mother could be of help.

Or ask your father what HE suggests. She is his daughter.

Good luck

Answer 17

Oh wow, thats tough! Well i understand that he doesn't want to do it but it puts you in an ackward position too. Maybe when she's old enough to learn about it you will be dating a girl who can tell her about it. Or, maybe you have a close family member (aunt, cousin) who you could ask to talk to her about it. It will be weird for her to hear it from you, especially since you have no experience with it. I'd try to find a young woman to talk to her. Sorry about your loss by the way, I hope you can work this out before she needs answers! Good luck.