I need a guys advice? or girls 2?

Question

ok now im going out with my boyfriend for 4 months and weve broken up a few times and got back together i like him alot but i never really got over my ex. My boyfriend just got me a really pretty neclace but i feel bad exepting it and what shoulkd i do about the ex thing because we talk alot and joke around but my friend said i was flirting big time but i didnt realize how do i get myself to stop a habit i dont even notice

Thanks for anyone who help and plz no rude comments

Answer 1

How can you stop if you don't notice that you do it? Just give it some time as you stop having feelings for him you will stop flirting, when you talk to him you flirt cause you still have feelings and subconciously you are trying to win him back.

Answer 2

I wouldn't get involved with anyone who still has a shadow of a past romance lurking about.  It's an invitation for the pain of a heartbreak and we've all had enough of that.

If your not over someone, it's difficult for most of us to feel secure in our relationship with you especially if your ex is still actively in your circle of friends.  Yes, I'm a jealous lover and so are most of us if we care about you.  Otherwise, if we don't care what you do or who you do it with, we don't really value our relationship with you.

About the necklace, you should give it back with a very gentle explanation about his feeling stronger towards you than you do towards him.  He's trying to firm up his relationship with you but he's only going to feel pain for as long as you still have contact with your ex.

Your behavior with your ex is not the habit you need to stop.  Your ex is the habit.  As long as he's still on your Christmas card list, you should not let anyone else get too close to you for their own good.

Best Wishes

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Answer 3

u hav to get used to the fact tht u hav a different bf now and if u cant then tell him tht ur not sure who u truly lik cus u still hav feelings for ur ex so it b better if u dnt pretend to lik ur bf now then pretending tht u do nd hav him falling deeply and madly in love wit u when u dont feel the same way

Answer 4

That is not a good basis for a relationship : feeling bad for him just because of a necklace, and still not over your ex

Maybe it's time to be single for a while until you get things straightened out

You may not want to hear that but it's only for the best :)

You can handle it anyone can

Answer 5

i dont know you gotta learn how to do it. stop talking to your ex b4 something bad happens. learn to control yourself.

Answer 6

Sometimes it's hard to see those kinds of things about ourselves.  You may have to do that via the cold turkey method; just stop talking to your ex.

Clearly, your boyfriend feels upset about how you interact.  Flirting and banter can seem very similar.  This shouldn't matter unless you are around them both at the same time.  If that happens regularly, try making a conscious effort to flirt with your boyfriend.  I bet that will get his mind off of your ex.