I need a guys point of view?? plz help (i already asked once but need help from guys)?

Question

im with this guy and i totally trust him, or at least i did, but the other day i got bored and checked out his facebook profile and hes like all over places like "are u interested" and "flitable", it just really bothers me. (especially since like a 3 months ago before we were really even together and i was on places like that, he said it bothered him so i quit) i told him it bothered me and he said he felt bad and all, but he keeps doing it!!!

why does he??

do u guys get some kind of thrill from hitting on girls that u dont even know, when u know it bothers ur girl??

how can i get him to stop?

Answer 1

OK, are you sitting down? This may sound harsh.

You say you are ‘with’ this guy…and you totally ‘trust’ him. First, If you are really ‘with’ him and ‘trust’ him you would probably not even waste time looking at his facebook, no matter how bored you are. Second: if you 'totally' trusted him, what you saw on his facebook would not bother you because you’d just think “boys will be boys” or, 'he's so cute" or some other c**p like that. Third: You’ve been with him less than 3-months, and it's really dumb to ‘totally’ trust someone you’ve known for less than 90 days!  Do you also have a target tatooed on you forehead? That’s just asking for it.

The tragic truth is, you are just starting to know him…and what you do know is he thinks it’s OK for him to fool around on Facebook, but not for you. That’s lame. You also clearly know he is not very smart, because messing around with other girls on facebook is such an obvious way to get busted. Or, he may think you are just too dumb to find out. Either way, he does not care about how you feel about his antics...or he’d stop. Most likely, he ‘knows’  you are just so in love with him that he can get away with whatever he wants and you’ll forgive him. A lot of guys think this and a lot of girls just let them go on thinking that. Girls have to teach guys how to treat them…if you don't you’re just another tool or doormat…or both! Most decent guys actually like fair, honest girls who have a backbone, and expect nothing less from their guy.  

It looks like you may be more ‘with’ your guy than he is ‘with’ you. Find out! Tell him what is acceptable behavior is, and what is not acceptable, and stick to it....then see what happens. The choice is yours alone. If he is a guy who only forages on the 'weak & sick' chicks in the herd, cut him loose...there are PLENTY of those girls out there just waiting to be his next meal. Ouch…sorry!

Answer 2

no i think its a thrill when a girl hits on me and i tell her i have a girl because it makes my girl alot happier which in turn gets me happier (not trying to be nasty or anything) but its true. he thinks hes cool obviously for doing that but make sure its him 1st not his little brother or freinds doing it  

Answer 3

I'm not a guy but i may have an idea. Umay not be pleasing him in the wy that he wants it. Try giving him back rubs or cook him up a big juicy steak. Just try 2 keep him away from the computer. If that dosent work rejoin the sight, cause if he can do it u can 2. My opinion is that it's a bunch of junk. theres nothing on there, he's just lookin 4 entertament. If none of that works theten him 2 get out and see wat he say's then.

Answer 4

Give him a taste of his own medicine, and rejoin facebook. If he can do it so can you. If I was you i'd dump him, you two don't sound ready for a relationship if all you do is argue about facebook.

Answer 5

he thinks he can be a pimp just tell him again and dont talk to him for a couple of days and then go back to him         make him feel bad a little

Answer 6

yeh it's a thrill yeh we don't care that it bothers you and he won't stop because he is a jerk you should get a new boyfriend because he does not really love you you are just some fine tail to him

Answer 7

i dont get int flitable? are u interested?

Answer 8

obviously, committment is an issue with him here.

it is normal for guys to be wandering minstrels but ... not good for a

relationship.

if he wants to have a relationship, he must settle down and stop.

if he just wants to play the field, let him play ---- far away from you.

if you continue to put up with his playing, you will be abused and you are letting him do this to you.

you have to stand firm and say NO and leave.

you will not stop him from doing this, but you must be prepared to leave him.

he is not ready to settle down with you so you need to leave.

Answer 9

Are you talking about those facebook apps?  Those are stupid and don't mean anything. Don't think he's looking around or anything he was probably just bored and thought that might be entertaining.  Don't worry about it.  

Answer 10

why? he wants to sleep with you?

tell him it's over unless he removes the offensive language