I need a lil advice?

Question

well so theres this guy i sorta like we met in june n since 4weeks ago we sumtimes hng alone or with our frnd j..so last friday we ended up doing things..so i asked him wat we were n he had told me friends with benifits now the thing is he keeps switching it he eaither wants to be just frnds or fwb..i dont know cause this guy is a total flirt with other girls n m the only girls hes basiclly done stuff with..it seems like a mind game to me can anyone help me out so i dont get hurt?

Answer 1

Remove yourself from that situation immediately. A friend with benefits is an excuse that perverted guys have to use you for s*x. You *are* going to get hurt if you continue doing things with him. You’ve made a mistake here, but that doesn't make you a bad person, nor does it necessarily make him a bad person. He is obviously misguides and I'm sure covering for deeper emotional issues when he does this, and eventually he'll regret it when he is older. If you continue down this path, you will regret it later, and you will get very hurt. Learn from this experience and grow from it. Your body is a valuable thing and shouldn't be given out so readily.

If you like him, this will pass. You sound young.  Try being just friends with people until you are older. High school relationships can destroy a lot of beautiful friendships.

Edit: Your ages actually make that illegal. You may be out on your own and able to make your own decisions, but that does not mean that they will be the right ones. It's dangerous to get so involved with someone so fast.

Answer 2

He's playing games.  If you don't want to be FWB - then you need to tell him - he'll probably stop calling you - but do you honestly want to get with someone whose gotten with a lot of people - and may have gotten with someone just a few hours prior to you or after you?  

If he truly likes you, he'll respect your decision and either just be your friend (w/o benefits) or he'll want to be in more of a relationship with you.

Good luck.  Don't settle for anything less.