I need a little pick me up?

Question

so ok, my husband and I have been married for 3 years now, and we have been together for about 6. we have decided to have a baby, this should be a wonderful time in my life, but I am finding it VERY hard to even want to try, (even though I have wanted childen so bad it hurts, I cry about it). my husband and I have not used anything to prevent pregnancy for 5 years now. Well I just found out that my husbands neice (who is only a month younger than I) just found out she is pregnant, (she has only been married for 8 months). then there is a woman that comes into my work that has the same name as me (I have a very unique name. Angell, and come to find out she has the same middle name as me as well) and she is pregnant, I found out that a co worker is pregnant and someone else I know. I am starting to just not want a child at all. nothing seems to work. I do not know what to do. PLEASE lift my spirits.

just a sad angell look to start a family of her own.

Answer 1

have you thought about going to the doctor for fertility tests just to relax you a bit

Answer 2

For some women and/or couples, getting pregnant is very hard. For others, they seem to get pregant at the drop of a hat, so to speak.

I believe the key is to Stop trying! You are so focused on having s*x to get pregant...but thats not the only reason to have s*x.

Stop thinking about having a baby. Enjoy this time with your husband, enjoy each other in the bedroom, etc.

You put yourself through alot of stress by focusing on getting pregnant that it actually works against you.

You and your husband should get checked out by a doctor to make sure everything is in working order. There are some couples who just can't conceive. I know thats not what you wanted to hear, but its reality. A doctor will be able to tell you if getting pregnant is possible.

There are also ovulation kits at your local pharmacies. They can help you determine when you will ovulate so that you can have s*x during that time.

Good luck.

Answer 3

It's understandable for you to feel this way - but rest assured, your time will come!  Try to be genuinely happy for all these other people, and then you will get your turn and everyone will be happy for you as well.  I'm not sure why fate takes its good old time sometimes, but I assure you that when you have your child it will have been worth the wait.  I hope that helps.

Answer 4

You need to go to doctors, They will do the appropriate tests on you and your partner too see if there is a problem and hopefully help fix it, or give you more options. Im sure your time will come!

Answer 5

I woud think if you have been not preventing it for so long and nothing has happened you may want to see a doctor to rule out any complications. Maybe you need a little help. As far as everything else, I know it has to pull you down when everyone has what you want, so do want you have to do to get through it. Maybe go talk to someone, especially if you getting so down: crying cause it hurts so bad. Your time will come. My husbands aunt was trying for about 6 years when we got pregnant, we were only 18 and they were in their 30's. She hated me and my baby because they thought I didn't deserve it and they did. Finally when my daughter was about 3 they had a baby, then all was well. They put us through h**l, wouldn't even hold my kids or acknowledge them. I know it hurts, but don't hurt other because of it! Good luck with whatever you choose!