I need a relief from this matter.?

Question

its 2 years since we got married. it was an arranged *** love marriagemy husband is a divorcee with two kids. i love and believe him very much and so does he. he is very much liked by everyone even a newcomer falls in his talk and becomes a friend. sometimes i dont like him too much friendly with the girls, not every girl, but some selected ones. i feel very disturbed and in my mind i ask a lot of questions for which i get confused and tensed. i console myself saying that i should not think negatively, but all in vain, i get tensed, disturbed all my works goes upside down. my husband directly finds out from my face that i am mood off, but as i am tensed that our relationship may have problem i try to hide the problems and lies to him some other matters. my husband often takes me out, he is like a good friend to me. i have even talked to him about this, he laughed at me, he told me talking to a girl does not mean having an affair. he told dont confuse yourself by thinking all these things. i beleive him a lot, but i feel scared

Answer 1

He isn't trying to hide anything.  He's good to you.  And he is also your friend.  You don't know how important that is.  My girl friend is my best friend.

Relax.  The more you worry about it, the more you tense up.  The more you tense up, the more you stress.  The more you stress, the moodier you get.  Eventually you'll be living in a negative world which can only cause problems.  And why?

Give your husband the trust he deserves.  Be happy you have a good man.  Go give him a hug and tell him you love him.  Go on.  Do it now.

Enjoy your life.  God bless you all and good luck.

Answer 2

flow with the flow yaar... flow with the flow...

Answer 3

Hello,

         Please control yourself, as agreed by you that you beleive him a lot, but you feel scared shows that you dont have any confidence on you.  First you take confidence on you.

      You are very much aware when you get married to him as he has two kids, and he is social person, he is very much liked by everyone shows that he is social broad minded one.  Your weakness is that you are not sure about your love with your husband.  Please dont spoil your life by thinking ugly things in your mind.  Life iv short make it sweet and happy.

     What i thought that you dont have any work do, because of that only you have lot of time to think like so, as my husband is with the some girls.  Be brave, and broad minded and have good life.

Answer 4

Dear sonn,

Its common to have such feelings only when you are very possessive towards your husband. It might also be a reason for your insecurity.From what I read in your question I understand that you have developed such a fear because your husband is a divorcee and he might go away from you too.Its natural sonn.But take my advice please don mess up your marriage no man can tolerate a suspicious wife.When your husband reacted so politely and giggled away when u told him how u feel when hes talking to girl tells me hes true to u. Just imagine how u will feel if your husband suspects you for some reason, you will say all men are like this they suspect women for no reason bla bla bla... Just imagine sonn what if your husband develops a negative attitude towards you that my wife is so very suspicious probably he will not be the same caring person as he is now, Remember one thing he had alreday divorced his first wife(I dont know for what reason) think what if he gets irritated by you and ends up with the same conclusion????You will go no where(im not trying to scare you)ITS A FACT!So be cheerful divert yourself take care of the kids..Only when you have a lot of free time(there is a saying remember"empty mind is devils workshop").Show him you are a good wife.cook good food for him.Show lot of concern.Pamper him like a kid.Even if what you suspect is true he will come back to you and think of no other girl.Please dont let out your emotions or look sad when he comes back from office. Welcome him with a hug tell him how much you missed him all day long..Im sure you will remember me for the rest of your life! ALL THE BEST!!TAKE CARE..BE HAPPY!        

Answer 5

wtf, you are tripping

Answer 6

if you believe him and if you are friendly with him that's the solution, tell him when ever you both are in good mood that you dont like that he talk to girls, and you feel unsecure with this, he'll really understand.

good luck.

Answer 7

You have not any other option, faith is the only solution for you.