I need a whole lot of advice fast!?

Question

Ok, well my teacher lost 20 lbs. over the summer, and I'm 13 and I weigh over 220 lbs. and she was talking to my grandmother and said if I ever wanted to talk about losing weight, and if I ever need help or support or anything like that. I do, but I don't really feel comfortable, because I don't really talk to people about my weight, and especially my teachers! (I think a whole lot of students know what I mean!) But, I feel like I do want to talk to her, but I don't because I don't feel comfortable.......what should I do?

Answer 1

Gotta make a choice hon.

I think you shoud try and bring it up in a conversation with her, just say something to the effect of "so I was thinking about getting in shape over the summer" or something.  I think you'll find it's alot easier once you get the ball rolling.

Answer 2

if you don't feel comfortable with her, talk about it with someone you are comfortable with.  

Answer 3

Your right, it is kind of uncomfortable talking to a teacher and even a little awkward, its hard enough talking aout it in general but your teacher seems really nice, and its awsome that she wants to help! I think you should talk to her, it might be easier since you had something in common. Goodluck! Cheers! :)

Answer 4

I think she is mostly concerned about it as a health issue.  I understand how you feel about it not being comfortable but just try to think about what is best for you.  You might find out that talking about it makes you feel a whole lot better.  Your teacher is not there to judge, but to guide you in the right direction and help you make the right choices.  Living your life where every decision you made was based on the fear of judgment or being uncomfortable....well, it wouldn't be much of a life.  You'll learn that.  

Answer 5

Just be honest and ask her advise,she is yout teacher after all who wants the best for you :)

Answer 6

I'm a bit confused.   You won't talk to a teacher who is offering assistance, but you will post a question here?

Answer 7

i think you should talk to her (im an overweight 13 year old girl to i weight 165 pounds) dont ask her infront of anyone becase that will make you feel more wierd, if you dont want to confront her leave a letter on her desk.

and just incase you still feel wierd u could contact me if you want, because im trying to lose weight to (in a healthy weight) if u really want to talk to me my email is [e-mail]

:)

Answer 8

If you feel like it would help you, go for it. As for feeling awkward, I'm sure after a little while you'll open up.  

Answer 9

you should tell your teacher about it some times I even get scared to tell my teacher some thing but I do it any way.

Answer 10

I think you should speak with your teacher. Don't feel uncomfortable about it. Look at it this way.... Your teacher has first hand knowledge of how to lose weight successfully and your teacher also knows how it felt when he/she was a little overweight and the stigma that comes with it. Don't feel embarrassed. Millions of people have issues with weight loss/gain, etc. You're not alone and it's not a topic that feel ashamed of. You feel like you need to shed some pounds and your teacher has been there/done that. your teacher sounds like a perfect person to talk to about this. And when you do, don't make it a student to teacher conversation. Come to your teacher as a person who is interested with talking to another person who has experience with this.  

Answer 11

Why don't you ask your grandma to ask your teacher in private about her advice.

SHe can also talk to your teacher and let her know that you aren't comfortable talking to her but appreciate the gesture, that way she won't make any comments in front of any of your friends.

Also...just because you are heavier now, it doesn't mean that you will be forever

Good luck

Answer 12

Oh sweetie I know what you mean I dont like to talk about weight either you know what I mean its like dude I know Im chubby but come on dnt rub it in!!!! lol I felt that way until one day I was jogging with my dog and a lady that was also running with her dog stopped meand actually showed me a picture of her when she weighed almost 300 lbs she now weighs only like 100 to 120 pounds!!!!!! I was a lil embarassed when we first started to talk about that but then I felt great you know its like stepping out into uncharted teritorry after that I decided to keep on with my diet I have lost around 20 lbs so far!

So talk to your teacher she will inspire you I know it

Answer 13

If you feel like you want to talk to her,  than do it.  Of course it'll be a little uncomfortable.  You'll be talking about something you don't like about yourself that you want to change,  throughout your life those kinds of conversations will be difficult.  Someone is offering to help though,  and I think you should take it.

Answer 14

Teacher's are human beings!  Most teachers go into that profession because they love to help others improve themselves!  

If your teacher just lost some weight, she will be able to share some ideas with you and she'll be able to understand what you're going through.  

Talk to her.  Most teachers don't bite!  :-)

Answer 15

if you dont feel like talking to her, then maybe you can go to someone else. its sometimes easier to speak to someone professional who is neutral. i what you are going thru. i struggled with my weight all my life. but, embrace your body whatever size it is. you are beautiful inside out.. remember that. my daughter is 15 and have the tightest body ever. she reminds me of myself at her age. big breast , full hips and a solid size 16.  she has the highest self esteem.. wish i had it at her age.. good luck.  

Answer 16

If it were me i would either take a step and talk to her myself or ask my mom or somebody to talk to her for me and ask how she went about losing her  hope i was helpfull!!

Answer 17

do what you heart says because you really need help my grandpa weighs way less then you not to  be rude or anything if you dont wanna talk to your teacher then to something online

Answer 18

I'd humble myself and ask her for advice. You never know, it may work out a lot better than you think!  

Answer 19

she is older and has gone thru this... also being a female , she can understand what thoughts and fears you may have. More importantly you would have support. just feel the fear and talk.

Answer 20

If you feel that you can trust her. Then Try.  If it turns out to be to uncomfortable Tell her you dont wana talk anymore.

Answer 21

you should email her, look an average overweight person dies 30 years earlier than they should. no one has to know what you say or do. i'm 12 and i way 180 so i need to loose weight to. i know it can be uncomfortable talking to your teachers about personal stuff. but sometimes you have to. have you tried talking to your friends? you can and if they are really your friends than they would support you and help you.

your teacher sounds nice and they deal with student personal stuff all the time. it's ok. they are people and i think she knows what it is like to be uncomfotable being over weight. so give it a shot. unless you want to die 30 years earlier.  

Answer 22

I would talk to her, you don't have to tell her yoru weight if you don't want to.

Answer 23

ok look at it this way, this year she is your teacher, next year she will still be a teacher but not your teacher. So it's a little different. Tell your grandma that your interested in losing weight and you wanna talk about it with your teacher and if she could set up a "date" for the two or three of you to get together and discuss it. Hey I know it isn't easy but you already did the hardest part, deciding that you wanna lose weight, now comes the fun part, losing it. I mean this all in a positive way, stay committed and you'll see what I mean ;)

Good Luck sweetie!!!!!!!

Answer 24

if you really want something you would chase after it no matter what the obstacle is. plus she is women and girls do work together better.

Answer 25

OK, I do know what you mean. If you don't feel comfortable talking to your teachers then try to talk to someone really close to you such as a sibling or your mom. (I was you once about 4-5 years ago and i was in between 217-224. i did not really want to talk to any one and did not want to do much either.) You see you are lucky that you have some one that is willing to help you and parent that will care for you if you need help. (i did not have that. i had to tough it out on my own)

So what I am trying to say is "You do NOT have to  feel confortable talking to them, you just need to know tha they wont make fun of you or any thing like that but they WILL be there for you in your time of need. So dont be like me and live the hard way, be who you want to Be

Best Wishes,

baker456123

Answer 26

Once you break through that comfort barrier, it will be much easier. Just tell her that you want your talks with her to be confidential.  

Answer 27

You sound very sweet... Being yourselff in life is what counts and not liking yourselff and looking in the mirror everyday is hard and I know what you mean but knowing that you tried is better. Talking to your teacher would help but I dont think even your teacher would help fully. If you join activities and maybe eat your normal meals and then have a snack and then carrots or something later would help a ton!!!  

Answer 28

Would you rather weigh 220 or get the courage to talk to her and lose some weight?

I mean, talking to teachers are tough but once you get going it will be

like talking to any other person your comfortable with.

Answer 29

Just do what you feel is right-thats all I can say to this

Answer 30

its totally up to you! To tell the truth I would talk to her... :) and you should too... :)

Answer 31

i dont want to be mean but that is very overweight at this point you should do anything lose some weight because that is life threatening. i wouldnt go to your teacher though. go to liek a personal trainer.