I need adoption advice, please help???

Question

My husband and I have come to the realization that the only way we will have a child is to adopt. Has anyone adopted internationally? Was it a good experience? Would you advise others to adopt internationally? Which countries are quickest? What are the costs? My husband and I have only really looked into adopting from China and Russia and haven't done much research yet. We talked about adopting locally, but fear getting our hopes crushed by a mother or father changing their mind at the last minute. Any information would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!

Answer 1

get a child from a poor country  

Answer 2

RUSSIA!!! THE WAY TO GO i no 4 babies from there  

Answer 3

Don't needlessly separate a child from his family because the mother is young, poor, uneducated, ect...

Adopt from foster care, those kids REALLY need homes

Answer 4

I think what might help you as well as the a-child is if you go into adoption realizing its not "for keeps". Its inevitable that one day the a-child may want to reunite with their mother or family.  

Answer 5

Try in Philippines or Thailand. Those countries are I think cheap to do an adoption

Answer 6

k frusci thanks for your answer me and my wife are now looking into adopting a child from ukraina and for all you saying adopt out of foster care . try it one time social workers will fight you every inch of the way theyed rather you foster than adopt and we are looking to give a child a home he or she can call their own not a stopping place to the next foster home

Answer 7

I admit I don't have much experience with that but I reccomend adopting from a country like Ukraine. I worked with an orphanage there for a little while last summer. These kids really need someone good to adopt them. They don't have the proper clothes and there are children of all ages. They don't get much food and they don't really have any toys to play with. They sleep in complete darkness after eight. They are practically neglected becase there are so many kids and barely any staff.They practically beg you to take them with you and they really want to be adopted. They don't get proper medical care (a baby died of worms right before I got there) Those children are so sweet and they deserve better. I can't really describe how bad it is there.

Please consider adopting from Ukraine.

Answer 8

email me here, i cant say all i want to say on here

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Answer 9

1. If a child's bio parents 'change their mind' - that's a really good thing.

It means that the child will get to grow with the people that are part of his/her biological make-up. That's a GREAT thing.

Much better for the child's emotional and psychological well being.

(or do you want to adopt only for your own desires - rather than really doing what is best for the child?!?!)

2. Many overseas countries actually have very suspect practices in regards to adoption - and some children are not really 'orphans' at all - but just a means for someone else to make some serious dollars from the 'transaction'.

3. You need to work through your own issues of not being able to conceive and have your own child - as an adoptee will never be the bio child you have dreamed of - and frankly doesn't need that added pressure - an adoptee already goes through enough - without having to please and be grateful to their adoptive parents.

4. Adoption is not an ownership deal for kids. All humans want and need to know where they came from - who they are linked to biologically - who shares their looks, traits, talents. If you do not allow an adoptee to have the knowledge - that contact (if it's possible) - you are creating even more problems for the adoptee.

5. You need to read - about what adoption actually means to an adoptee - from an adoptee standpoint - if you're ever going to be a good adoptive parent. From your question - you appear to not know about the complicated nature - that adoption really is. You need to be more informed - for your sake - and especially for any child that may be eventually placed with you.

Here are some places to start -

http://harlowmonkey.typepad.com/harlows_...

(blog written by an adoptee from Korea - with many many links to other blogs, articles, books etc)

http://www.uoregon.edu/~adoption/archive...

Answer 10

I am foster to adopt home in my state.  My husband and I went to siminars and heard from many many agencys and decided that we would like to foster to adopt.  I am sure you have heard on here that ths is very hard and takes forever...I can not speek for others but Yes it is hard emothinaly draining but we were blessed with a 3 day old.