I need advice, please help me.?

Question

I've been on & off with this guy for a whole school year, & my friends say he isn't good for me, & that I can do better. So the last time when he broke up with me, I started talking to this other guy, & I started to like him, even-tho, I was still clearly, in love with my ex. And now, after a couple months, this guy i've been talking to asked me out. I thought I liked him, but now I just feel weird. And, honestly, I still do like my ex-boyfriend, but all me & him have done lately is argue. But he does still like me. I don't know what to do. I can't go back with me ex, I just can't do it. I'm so confused about everything. I've been like this for 3 months already. Help me.

Answer 1

you need obv. need 2 stay away from dating for a while. take your time to try to get rid of the feelings you have about your ex. it wouldn't be fair to your nu bf or any other guy if u were dating him but were still inlove with someone else. ur young. u don't need the pressure.

Answer 2

Of course you're never going to be successful in a new relationship until you resolve your previous relationship.  It's not fair to the new guy to be always comparing him in your head to the old guy, or always daydreaming about the old guy.  So figure out what you want to do with the ex first.

Of course you will have lingering feelings of love and attraction for your ex as long as you continue to encourage them.  That fire will never go out while you keeping feeding it.  You need to ask yourself if the heat of this fire is worth the continual burns.  

Personally, I say an ex is usually an ex for a reason, and there's no use dragging things out.  You can be friends with him in the future, but for now you need to cut him out of your life and extinguish those embers.  A little separation (say, 6 months) will make it much clearer to you if you're meant to be with him, if there is an easy solution to your problems with him, or if he really is bad for you.

Answer 3

give your self a break,when you are unsure,u can not take right decision,

Answer 4

You dont have to be with your ex and you dont have to go out with the other guy.  Take a break and be alone for awhile until a guy you actually want to date asks you out - and going out on one date doesnt mean you have to become his girlfriend.

Answer 5

Moving on is one of the hardest things to do... ever.  From experience let me just say that no matter what your friends know best.  When in a relationship or in love we tend to be blinded and not see a situation from all points of view, so listen to them.. they may see things that you dont.  Also, if he was the one that dumped you thats a sign that maybe he doesn't like you anymore.  Guys say they do to keep you dangling but seriously go out there in the world an see that there are more guys.  Once you find someone who likes you and you can have a great time with it will be easy to get over him.  Until then, be strong and remember that you deserve the best!