I need advice!!! about my 6 yr old step son!!?

Question

my step son is 6.5 and in kindergarden. he got in trouble yesterday at school because him and annother girl were touching eachother--inapropriatly. my husbnad and his ex have always been separated- so i think this has a little bit to do with it-but his teacher told us yesterday (as wedont see his teacher all the time) that this has happend 4-6 times now with other children.

i am afraid that something is going on and someone might be either touching him or that he is not being educated enough about this. or is watching something not age aprropriate.

my husband tried to talk to his ex about this, and told her that he thinks their son needs to be spending more time with dad-weather it be a couple of hours a day or more than every other week (custody has been a nightmare for these two) and she just basically said "no, that is not why he is acting out, but what do you think i should do about it"

this conserned him even more...

any ideas?

Answer 1

you need to take him to a foresic investigator. My daughter was sexually abused by my step-father when she was 3. I had no idea. The investigator can determine whether or not your step-son has been abused. I would do it just to know the truth. I would hate for this boy to grow up with those memories and not know how to deal with them. If he has been abused, get him into counseling asap.

Answer 2

You  and  your  husband  should  keep  telling  him  that  his  private  parts  are  private .  I   know  kids  are  curious,  but  they  have  to  learn  proper  behavior .

Answer 3

Sounds like the 6 year old boy needs to talk to an adult on a regular basis to either learn what is appropriate behavior or to find out why he is acting out sexually on a regular basis.  I think this child needs help.  It sounds like he is not getting the adult attention he needs or perhaps getting some adult attention that he shouldn't be getting.  It concerns me.  The mother doesn't sound very concerned about things.

Answer 4

I think he may be seeing mom and a boyfriend and they may not even be aware of it.he is at a curious age though,keep drilling it in his head that you or no one else should touch,if he is always showing his self than he must be seeing or hearing someone talking like he so hung or just gangsta commits like that could make it a game,

Answer 5

Ask the guidance counselor at school to talk to him.  If she gets any information or clues that there is abuse going on, she is a mandatory reporter and will call social services.

Answer 6

In my mind it sounds like somethings wrong on his mother's part. She may not have even known about it. If you think about it, her boyfriend could be sexually abusing the child. If she did know about it, its neglect. You need some sort of proof. And i dont think that a therapist is a bad thing. Hypnotism may also give the truth. Somehow you need him to open up. And if you can show a cash exchange from that lawyer and the woman's mother... then you might have a case. Or try again, because honestly that kid needs to be in a more caring environment.

Answer 7

Sometimes kids are just curious. He may have heard about this from another kid or seen something on TV. However, he could have also seen something that his mom was doing at home. These are all possibilities other than he is being abused.

Answer 8

o it's ok he's curious i was like that at that age too.you should treat your step son like he's your real son miss whatever or elsie he'll hate u alot!

Answer 9

I think kids are just VERY curious about the opposite s*x at this age. My son (6) is forever telling me when he sees somebody's thong hanging out of their pants. I think your husband needs to tell the son that people have "private parts" that NO ONE (except themselves) touches or looks at. Tell him that girls Private parts are different than boys. Good Luck!