I need advice from moms and teenagers(girls)?

Question

Last year a lot of stuff happened in my family. My parents were already divorced and my mom was in the process of her second divorce. Any way worse came to worse and the last year I went and lived with my dad. I love it there but i missed my friends and I wanted to come back and graduate with them. I told my mom I wanted to come back but I couldn't live with her. I'd suffered enough emotional scarring. However, I promised I'd stay the summer with her. Now summer is ending and school starts in less than 2weeks and i'm still at my moms. I'm supposed to be moving in with my grandparents soon so i can get situated for school. It makes it harder that life at her house has improved. All though she remarried rather quickly. He is a great guy and loves her and my siblings.Now I know that there's no good way to go about this conversation but I don't even know how to bring it up. I don't want to hurt my mom she has suffered enough as well but I have made up my mind and I am set in my decision. How do I tell her that i have to move out yet again? She already knows it's coming but I'm fairly sure she is in denial and that she'll play the guilt card.

How do I bring it up and go about this as...maturely as possible. Please I need help.

Tiff

Answer 1

Whatever she has done, your mom loves you . Be happy for her that she has found a man who loves her. If she already knew that you are going away again, it won't be too difficult for you to bring up the subject. Just tell her outright but don't forget to tell her that you love her and that you are going to miss her. She'll understand.

Answer 2

i just straight told my dad i wanna live with my mom just tell your mom you wanna live with your grandparents  

Answer 3

tell your mom you love her but you think that you would be  better off at your grandparents house...tell her you would make better grades and feel better emotionally...now tell her as sweetly as possible

Answer 4

Tell your mother that she is not the only one in the family that suffered from the divorce. You still need time to recover also .  Its not selfish of you to let her know your not ready. She should want whats best for you. If that means not living with her then so be it. I can imagine how tough it must be. Stick out time does heel MOST things.

Answer 5

If your mom already knows it's coming, how about something like:

"My grandparents are about ready for me to move in with them. I have been having a great time with you and my siblings though! And ___ is a great guy. Can we get back together and do something fun the weekend after school starts?"

That will state that you are in fact leaving, assures her that you approve of her new life, and lets her know that she will see you again soon.

Beyond that - hopefully she won't play the guilt card much. If she does, tell her that as great of a time as you are having with her - you aren't ready to move back. There are too many sad memories from the past and you need more time.

She should learn to accept this. Hopefully soon.

If she is too hard to talk to in person, try writing her a letter. After you move out, send her a letter explaining stuff. Maybe she can reflect on it until your words sink in.  

Answer 6

Its hard i went through something like that but the difference was that i was SENT somewhere else not that i wanted to moved. But the best thing is to work up your courage and talk to her. only you know ur mom so only u know what u can say that wont hurt her. Try to explain your feelings and what it was u went through emotionally with everything that happened. She'll understand. She loves you and she's always gonna want the best for you.