I need advice from some moms?

Question

I am going into high school and my mom will only let me wear mascara and eyeshadow. She lets me wear eyeshadow because she knows that I don't want too. When I entered middle school she told me I could start wearing makeup, then she told me she meant high school, well now the time is hear and she is saying no. Of course she is giving me the you are beautiful with out makeup, which I believe, but I do want to use a little eyeliner and a little powder. She has raised me right, and I don't want to cake it on my face. She won't even give me a chance, every time I mention the word eyeliner she says absolutley not and brings up the name of a girl who cakes makeup on her face. I get Straight A's, and I am the president of the honor society. I am to the point where I am ready to go behind her back, but then that would just prove to her that I am immature, and I don't want that. I just want her to cut the string loose a little. Any advice?

Answer 1

Be truthful with your mom. Tell her everything you just told us. She is just a person...like you and me!

Why not suggest to your mother that you are ready to wear full makeup but you want to do it in the proper way. Ask your mother to take you to the Clinique counter (or other counter that gives makeovers and advice) so that you can learn the proper way to apply makeup. She might want to call and make an appointment.....Ask her to please respect your being responsible about this decision and to please join you in this adventure. I think she will cave in and see you for the wonderful, mature, responsible girl that you are!

Good luck!

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Answer 2

Maybe ask her if she will let you wear makeup on the weekends- when you are going somewhere w/ HER... that way you can prove that you are responsible while respecting her parenting decision. Just remember that it is best if you don't push the issue too much, too fast- that can also make you seem immature. Going behind her back is definitely not the way to handle it, so you are right in that aspect. It may not even  be about the makeup at all; she may not have been able to figure out how to deal w/ the fact that you are going to high school and the fact that you are growing up so fast; try to understand her side of things as best you can- it'll be easier to see her side whenever you have children of your own.

Good luck to you in high school!

Answer 3

Maybe you could ask her to let you wear it if she helps you with it the first few times to make sure it is not on heavy.  Tell her the things you have said here like mom- I am a responsible girl, you raised me right and I know I am beautiful the way I am I just want to enhance my eyes a litte and use powder to cut down on the shine.  Tell her you respect her opinion but that you are growing up and you would like her to respect you are well.  Going behind her back will only cause trouble.  She will loose trust in you and that takes a lot to earn back.  Good Luck!

Answer 4

Seems like you are lucky to have a mom who cares about you :-) Wearing make-up that young can cause serious skin problems, and is not necassary on young skin. Many girls who wear caked make-up now have terrible skin. Ask your mother how she would feel about mineral make-up.

Answer 5

Instead of asking her to help you learn how to properly use makeup so you don't look overdone you could ask her to go with you to the makeup counter and have a little makeover done that would help you learn while she monitored.  You are right to not go behind her back, that is likely to backfire.   Also, maybe you could compromise on when you wear makeup, maybe not everyday but just on the weekends or when you are going out.

Answer 6

Ask your mom for a "girl's day" Let her pick what she wants to do for the first half of the day,. . . . And you get the second half.

Rule #1 for each of you.  each portion of the day must be a surprise to the other. Your mom can't tell you what she is planning and same applies to you. Rule #2 absolutely no rejected each others idea.

On your portion of the day, take her to the mall and have your makeup done, in front of your mother tell the makeup artist that you want only "light and natural".

You are onto the next stage of loving your mom as a parent and liking your mom as a friend . . . . Your mom also cross the stage of realizing her baby girl is growing up . . and because she has obviously done such a great job as your mom, you wearing makeup WILL NOT speed up that progress.

Answer 7

Maybe if you asked her to show you how to use it then that will help matters.  I mean if you ask her to put it on the way that she would like you to wear it then maybe that would make her feel a little better about it.  She is just trying to protect you and while that will be a little annoying it is just what mothers do.  She just doesn't want you to grow up anymore because you will always be her little girl.  Simply ask for some help.

Answer 8

I am a mom of a little girl..and when that day comes and i was in the same situation as your mom i would let you wear makeup i would just monitor how much you are wearing and maybe check your bag to make sure you arent sneaking it out to put more on until i trust that you wouldnt do that..i hope this helps and makes sense

Answer 9

Honey, she is just trying to protect you, and maybe she doesn't want you to grow up to fast, my daughter just turned 15, I allow very little and she's o.k with it, Please don't do anything behind her back, ask her if she has time to sit down and talk to you about it, maybe you could compromise.