I need advice...i suspect....?

Question

my husband is cheating, he cheated on me about 1 yr ago and after 3mo of splitting up we got back togheter, lately lil things that he' does is making me suspect he is. He try's extra hard to look his best for work, and he try's to convince me its for professiolism, which is fine because i get ready for work with no intention of getting anybody's attention, he sleeps on the couch, s*x 1 a wk, he swears and swore to me he would never do it again, but i dont believe it, what should i do, a heart break is the worst feeling ever, should i leave before i find out the truth or stick around.....we have a 4yr old and i dont want him to be the reason to stick around either....

Answer 1

As a person in recovery for this problem I can tell you how painful it was for my family....I got in recovery 9 years ago and my partner and I got in RCA (recovering couples annymous) 8 years ago....That fellowship has taught us how to work on ourselves   When he hits bottom he will get help and probably not until then....Mark  

Answer 2

my guess is that he is still cheating..only because of the couch thing..there is obviously a strain on your marriage, better to find out now than later, u need to do damage control now,i think u already know the answer.

Answer 3

This is what happens when you take a cheater back. They either continue to cheat or you become very insecure. In your case you haven't forgotten or forgiving him for cheating and with that you should leave him.

Answer 4

You won't be happy until you catch him.  Follow him.

Answer 5

Something a women always forgets, "TRUST YOUR INTUITIONS" If a man is only wanting s*x 1once week, Is a big sign! That means he either has a health problem or is finding it somewhere else. s*x is very important in a marriage. Also sleeping on the couch, he is just isolation self from you and your child. How much more can you put into a marriage if the other half is not cooperating? Heart break is hard, its another challenge but its NOT FOREVER! You will get trough it and will become a better women and a mother to your child. It would be easier now, then later on your child as well. If you really think this true you need to stick with your gut, and pray for guidance!  If you feel like you have done everything possible, remember its carma, it will all come back to you twice as much. You will be granted happiness! A wife should never feel 2nd, you are a trophy and should always be held up high and able to shine. You are a mother....and we all know Mothers are like superwomen, we do so much! Believe in yourself and don't comprise any less then what you deserve. People will only do to you ... what you allow them to do to you! Hold your head up and remember you are BEAUTIFUL!