I need advice on a friend?

Question

iv just got back in contact with an old friend we have been in contact for bout a year and at 1st it was really good we went out 3 times aweek. shes a single mom of 2 kids and doesn't get to go out much but I'm in the same boat even tho i am married i don't go out and iv got 2 kids aswell and the 1 day she asked me 2 babysit for her i didn't really want to cuz that would of been 4 kids and 3 of them under the age of 2 anyway i said yes because i no what its like she cant have mine because she still lives with her mom any how after then she kept asking me and i couldn't say no then she started asking if i could have them an hour what turned in to 7 hours with no text or call so the last time she asked i said i cant and i didn't hear from her in weeks then we started talking because she was looking for a house and i was as well so i spent bout a month looking for houses for her then i went on holiday and she was there with her sis i said id be right back and when i did she was gone then when i got back a few days later i checked my face-book and she had wrote on her page that she had a house i was really hurt my that because she didn't even text and tell me and i sent her a message saying nice one for letting me no and she sent 1 back saying shes been busy.

my question is what do you think i should do??

Answer 1

She took advantage of your good nature and since you put your foot down she's sulking. I'd take a good look at her behaviour and whether she is a good friend or just a user.

Answer 2

She's been using you, because she knows you're kind enough to do whatever she wants. (You're just like me!)

Best thing to do is forget about her. There are better friends out there. If she asks you to do anything else, just say you're busy or make some other non-descript excuse. ("I've got a family too. I need to spend time with them.") If she presses you into it, ignore her, and don't feel bad about it.

Don't tell her: "You've been using me and I'm sick of it," because that will make her angry and she'll probably throw a tantrum. Just distance yourself from her so that eventually, she'll get the message and leave you alone.

If you really do want to help her, then find someone else who has lots of time on their hands.

Hope this helped - Good Luck!

Answer 3

Sounds like she's just using you :\