I need advice on my twelve yr old daughter?

Question

Please if anyone could help i'd b very grateful my daughter seams to think it is ok to run around with a 16 yr old boy they met at school before he left i have spoken with her and she assured me that they r just m8s and we usually talk honestly and open but he's 16 how can i talk with her and know she's telling me the truth she seems to b with him all the time also i don't want to nag and make her rebel more help anybody ???

Answer 1

Invite the lad into your home. Get to know him. He will respect your daughter more for that, and you might even find out that he is to be respected!

Answer 2

something fishy invite him over have a gps system on her.

Answer 3

there are a lot of things that can be going on here:

1. she's dating an older guy

2. she has a crush on him

3. he has a crush on her

4. they are honestly just friends, in which case there's nothing wrong.

To find out which situation it is, what you could do is really have a one to one discussion with your daughter, even though your daughter sounds trustable. It's of utmost IMPORTANCE that you help her know that you are NOT and will not be angry with her in any way if she IS dating him. Just tell her that your concerns about older guys. I mean, it's kind of weird that she's spending all her time with him. Keep the conversation light. Unless you have some serious concerns about this guy, don't give any impression that you might forbid her from seeing him.

You may also want to meet the boy, and see for yourself if he can be trusted. Give the impression that you are not a mother to be fooled by anything. Avoid sounding hostile or paranoid, just make it clear that you're keeping an eye on them.

Look, when I was that age, I had some older friends. Idk, i just connected with them better than kids my own age. But hanging out with older peers may sometimes, not always, mean an early introduction to drugs and s*x. Like I said, you have to see what kind of boy you're dealing with, and SET YOUR LIMITS! You're the parent here; do NOT be afraid of your own daughter!

By the way, i think it's a great thing that you two are talking openly and honestly.

Answer 4

Your daughter has hit puberty hon.She is  a bag of raging hormones and VERY horny for that 16 yr old boy.Now let me ask you.Is she physically developed at all to where boys notice her?

If she is THAT is why this 16 yr old spends so much time with her.He KNOWS she has the hots for him and he is a raging bag of hormones too and knows in the right situation, he can get him some.

Now I have added 2+2 for you, you KNOW what you have to do and it is NOT going to make your daughter happy in the least hon.It is either that or brace for grandmotherhood.

Answer 5

I would be talking to his parents!  

Answer 6

Umm.. You can never tell for sure.

Mothers usually have a 6th sense for when there child is lying to them. You would know.

Or you will find out.

Just remind her that its easy to lose trust..but hard to gain back.

Answer 7

You tell her that she can't hang out with him.  Why would a 16 year old boy hand out with a 12 year old girl anyway?  

Answer 8

Well, take it from me. I'm 12. And she's probably hanging around with him because she likes him or because she wants to look cool. And yes, something's up because no 16 year old would want to hang around with a 12 year old unless they wanted something.. So I would find out more about him, yes.