I need advice on what to do..!! help please =)?

Question

Well, 2 years ago i started playing basketball, my friend introduced me to the school coach, and i practised with the team, and i absolutley sucked, bearing in mind i'd never played before.

So we went through the season, i played a bit in the games, but i wasn't anything great, and then in the off season he said he wanted to work on me, so we worked for maybe 2 or 3 hours a week on my skills and stuff, and i did about an hour everyday going over what he showed me.

I became the best in the team, and i made the representative team, and the rep team won nationals that year, mostly thanks to him.

Now this season has just finshed, and i was the best player in the team, i averaged 37 points a game on 62% shooting, but we couldn't win the league like he wanted, then all of a suden he started blamming me, because i was the best player and the captain, he was saying i should of stepped it up..

Then the other day at training, after the schools 8km race, i was sore and cramping up, and just going easy, and he's like your c**p Josh i don't even need to mark you.. and just firing little remarks like that the whole time, which really pissed me off, so i started playing hard out, and i stripped him, and dunked over his son, then he goes to me, how's the anger management and calls a foul, and it was clean..

He gave me **** for missing a game too, even though we were already out of title contention, he stilll yelled at me at practise yesterday, even though i was in Malaysia at the world dragonboat champs, and he missed a game the next week, and i had to coach, because i couldn't play because i had the flu, and he was only at a concert!

He's going to give the team contracts soon, and i was wondering if he keeps being a d**k to me, should i sign it or rip it up and spit on it, considering i'm here partially because of him, and now he's being a d**k to me..?

He used to be cool, now he's turned into a ***, what should i do..?

Thanks alot.

Answer 1

I am not going to give you any advice about what to do, because this is your life and I don't want to ruin it. However I will just give out my thought about what to do if I were you.

And yeah, my answer it I would just leave the team because of him. I mean, I have already had it enough and why should I still join the team if the coach is being a d**k to me? What is the point? Why don't I quit and let the team lose? Call me irresponsible but I am only a human and people make mistakes but the point is we don't mean to make them. And even though I can understand why he always blames you, because you're the best player in the team and you'd have so much pressure on your shoulders, but it doesn't mean that he can have any right to be unreasonable to you. This is just ridiculous to me.

I think you just need to keep that good memory of having the best basketball season and move on your life. Even though you love basketball now but you also need to know that you were introduced by your friend to join the team, and it was not based on your pure interest. It's completely different.

And I can only tell you what will happen if you go either way.

If you decided joining the team, then you will have to tolerate that SOB and make your life bitter. But if you decided not joining the team, then you just need to move on your life because this thing is completely over and tell him straightly that you hate him. He will either be very happy to see you go or he will be begging you to join the team. But be careful, he may also be a d**k to you again once he has persuaded you to come back and you guys have signed the contract. Because he'd have the contract on his hands and he is the boss to you.

So hope I helped and hope you have a beautiful and successful career in the future.

All the best!

Answer 2

Well its not like ur sayin u got where ur at on ur own with out ur coach n the work u put in 2 it but f u like playing basketball even though ur coach is a d**k with u then go 4 it but f he keeps giving u c**p then don't play 4 them

Answer 3

will it be good to have a heart to heart talk with him on order to avoid any earlier misunderstanding between u and him? there must be a reason why a person attitude changes tremendously! he may have some expectation on u, that y he keeping scolding u..

nevertheless, the decision is yours, better consider carefully