I need advice...?

Question

my parents have been divorce for 7 years, now I am 15 and I don't want to visit my dad, he lives in another state than my mom... anyways i am entering 10 grade this year and going back and forth and missing school is really hard on my grades, so its hard to manage... how can I make it so that I can stay with my mom??? or who should I contact to get info...

thanks Im hoping for good and helpful answers

Answer 1

I understand completely. The sad thing is that you have no leg to stand on when you are young, however now that you are older you do have some say in what you want. You can through a lawyer write a letter to your dad and say that you don't want to see him any longer, it will hurt him, but it's your decission. You have the power to do what you want. If you want to live with your mother you go girl. You go were you feel comfortable. Have you got a school councillor, they too maybe able to help. Get your mother to contact the lawyer and ask them to redo the visiting rites. You need to concentrate on your 10 grade. You are an important individual and need to be listened to. Hope this helps.

Answer 2

i guess something would be to talk to them.

I'd start with your mom.

Then dad.

Work in how you set your priorities and how the situation is affecting you (negatively, duh)

We're kids, and we need to learn to manage not only time but also lives, and having to continuously go from place to place doesn't really help.  It only akes the process much more complicated.

A big thing would be to try to keep from fighting.  Obviously, your father would be a bit hurt by it, so it'd probably be best to somehow try to make it up to him.

And I'm sure that if your teachers knew your situation, they'd give you some slack.  Explain it to them in a way that isn't like "i deserve this," but more like, "please. TT^TT. I want to be smart. I really do T_T. please"

This way, if you knew that you'd be missing class, your teachers might be willing to let you have some work ahead of time, and you could slowly teach yourself, with the occasional help from a friend (or teacher, if you want to give up your lunch or wahtev =P)

I cant really think of much else, but kudos to you that you actually realize that you're struggling (can't find the right word, sorry) and need to do something.

Sorry if this doesn't help.  It's hard to give advice when I have no experience. =\

Good luck! Do your best! When you're stressing, take a nap.  Because when you're not conscious, you don't think. And that makes your brain not hurt. =D

Answer 3

I agree with the first person. You should also find out if your travel between your parents is a private agreement which they made, or part of a court order from a judge. If there is an order, you may need the court's agreement to change what you do. When you were 8, the judge probably did not listen to you much. Now at 15, you would have a voice in saying what you want to do with your life.