I need advices about my sexual performance

Question

I'm fairly new to the dating scene after being married for 11 years. During that 11 years I never had problems with cumming too quick or going multiple times. Since my divorce I've been with a few different women with different results. A few times I came way too quick other times but then I would get my second win and make things better. Other times I would *** to quick and could go for a second round. Then I've had a few times where I did well the went for round two and couldn't *** at all where my partner got like 3 orgasms. Now I'm actually with a woman I like and have been with her awhile now I can't seem to go 3 minutes. One time we did it 3 times but I came too quick every time. then other times I came too quick and couldn't go for round two. Once I did perfect but that was after a few drinks which took the edge off. I don't want to have to be half drunk to preform well. She says she like that she has that effect on me but, to me its embarrassing. She has made a few joke in good nature but it really does bother me does anyone have any help for me?

Answer 1

Hi

You are with someone you like now so you are trying too hard to perform well. You are far too anxious.

You performed well when you had been drinking so that shows that when you weren't so anxious you did well.

So have lots of foreplay and relax. When you are aroused and you are both fully relaxed then have s*x and you will be fine.

It is not a physical thing it is just your anxiety.

If you need to know more email me.

Regards

Andy

Answer 2

Why do men think that they have to be the one responsible when

s*x goes bad?  I hope this question answers your question> Your

partner doesn't seem to feel responsible to participate with your problem.

Answer 3

I'm a woman and I have advice that I probably shouldn't post publicly. Email me if you want.  

Answer 4

Don't worry, you are pretty much normal. Just take it as it comes. You will find performance will be better if you don't let litle worries niggle at you.

Answer 5

you are thinking about it too much its all a mental game my friend.

Answer 6

I rekon your doing a good job, she as what she gets, tell her not to be too greedy, arent we told that its men who want s*x and women dont.? Il tell you what i think on the matter after a lot of trial and error. The woman as some control over it too. Its not all down to the bloke. When they say it is its because theyre creating a problem where none exist that does two things. diminishes the ego and self esteem of the bloke, and secondly sells tablets. This saves em getting a real job and doing anyreal work. I think also that after a certain age although still great isnt as satisfying because there are only so mant ways to swing a cat. However the cat still gets swung. The efect is the same. You could see a s*x therapist, another workless job for the lazy. Sounds like your ego isnt as powerful as it used to be i myself used to do it several times a day and now dont care wether i do it or not. Im not bent and am single but its my choice. I dont want to waist my time making someone else happy. Im here to make me happy and in that im succeeding. However the therepists will tell you adifferent story, i have a problem etc. I do, not enough money to keep the relationships going for me to get up to speed as it were, practice/experience really does make perfect. apart from that good luck/ keep it up and heres to ya.  

Answer 7

Don't be embarrassed, she moves you to great things and she appreciates her involvement and you should too.  Some will say think of engine parts but why would you want to take your thoughts away from such a wonderful experience? She is feeling pleasure and so are you, it's a very good thing.