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Question

My son still wets the bed. I stop giving him drinks around 6:30-7pm bedtime is at 9. I tried nice talk and time outs. When I ask him why he wets the bed he states he doesn't feel it or he just didn't wake up. I took him to Dr and spent 45.00 on a machine that was suppose to wake him up and I also tried waking him up in mid night to go and he still wets the bed. Any suggestiond for this frusterated mom?

Answer 1

pullups ... ouch i know but that is last resort

Answer 2

Bedwetting is involuntary urination in children over 5 to 6 years old. It may occur at any time of the day or night. This article focuses on nighttime bedwetting and is very informative!!!  Good Luck!!

http://www.healthline.com/adamcontent/be...

Answer 3

Bedwetting is extremely common at this age.  Most usually, simply because the kids have bladders that are too small to hold urine overnight.  

Some things to try include making sure he pees before he goes to bed.  Buy goodnights underpants; these decrease anxiety and make it easier to go back to sleep after an accident.  Also buy a rubber covering that goes under his sheets.  Once again, this just helps with mess control and saves the mattress.

He may be afraid to go to the bathroom at night, so be sure to leave the hall light on.

Unfortunately, bedwetting may just be something you have to deal with for a few years.  He will probably outgrow it before he's a teenager.  It's best to just manage the effects since it's probably biologically impossible to stop the problem until his body grows a little more.

I was a bedwetter until I was about nine.  My mom tried everything, including late night punishments.  It was horrible and miserable for both of us. Finally, a doctor figured out that I had a problem with my bladder that caused me to build up urine and have no sensation of having to go.  She felt awful when she found out it was a medical reason; she still feels guilty about it today and counts it as one of her worst parenting mistakes.  Of course, I'm over it now!      

Answer 4

stop punishing him. Many kids his age are not night trained. restricting drinks won't help. His brain when asleep does not register to wake up when the bladder is full. it is a developmental thing and comes at different ages for all kids.  He cannot help it. It would like you been put into time out for sneezing. The stress you are putting on him will not help.

Answer 5

Stop liquids at 5:00pm.  Don't let him drink soda, soda causes gas, gas causes bloating and the bloating causes pressure on the bladder.  You say you took him to the doctor, so what did the doctor say...

Answer 6

I had this same problem a while ago with my son (he's 10 now). I tried positive reinforcement, and i'm ashamed to admit but i also tried negative reinforcement. It is involuntary though (for him anyway). Keep up with the cut-off time for more drinks but if medically he's fine, then it's just something your going to have to wait out. I found the more of an issue i made out of it, the worse it was and my poor kid just couldn't help it he'd just feel embarassed and guilty. Pullups were good primarily for me as i didnt have to wash the sheets every day, but i also found that subconsciously he knew he had a 'nappy' on and he would always pee in it. A plastic protective sheet is a must and he will eventually grow out of it. I still have the rare accident with my son, so i keep the sheet on. Just be patient with him.

Answer 7

My brother had this problem when he was younger The doctor said his bladder was just ttoo small to hold it ion over night. He wore Goodnights until he was about 8 or 9 when his bladder adjusted to his size.

My mother tried everyhting to get him to quit. Sometimes it just takes time.

Answer 8

Is it all the time or is it only sometimes? If it's only sometimes, I wouldn't worry too much, he's still little. If it's all the time, there could be another problem or he could just want the attention. Talk to him and see if anything is bothering him. Also, plan a special activity for just the two of you that you do before bedtime. If nothing else works, take him to a pediatric urologist to make sure there is not a medical problem.

Answer 9

I don't think punishment is the answer ( i am not judging you i only know that my nephew had this problem and if he thought he would get in trouble he would hide it) he went to a pediatric urologist and they gave him some meds he also wore the good nights underpants. He is doing alot better so just hang in there as hard as it is for imagine how he feels

Answer 10

First, NEVER punish a child for wetting the bed. You want a surefire way to guarantee they wet the bed, it's the anxiety related to wetting the bed.

Bedwetting, in most cases, is something that they can't control because they sleep too hard (my son is 12 and still wets occasionally and is thoroughly embarrassed by this fact) and alarms rarely work if they're hard  sleepers like that.

As they get older, the wetting will get less and less. You may notice an increase during times of stress (changes in schedule or routine, changing teachers, trying new things, stressful day at home or school). They say that between the ages of 10-12, it'll mostly go away. Sometimes permanently, sometimes not, depending on how their bodies grow and adjust.

One suggestion, in addition to what you're already doing, is to limit foods as well as beverages. Also, make him hold his pee for longer periods of time during the day, which will increase his bladder's ability to hold more before having to empty.