I need advise on 15yr old daughters attitude and actions

Question

i need some honest reasonable sensible advise on what to do with my daughter. she is 15 just found out she was sexually active with her then bfriend her attitude stinks more then a "normal" teenagers would she has no respect for other unless it is benifiting her she is boy and s*x obsessed (which i expect shes growing up) but now i have just checked her phone and pc and found nude pics of herself on them i have took her pc off her and gave her a phone that dont do mms she is grounded but it just dont seem to be bothering her at all she is just taking it all in her stride like nothing fazes her. she has even tried to steal money off her nanna this week. now she is not spoilt nor is she neglected where have i gone wrong what am i supposed to do am i missing something more serious please someone give me some advise

Answer 1

I may be totally wrong but judging simply by the way you posed your question, it doesn't sound like you are all that swift yourself. Kids learn by example, and you obviously didn't pay attention in grammar class. Your punctuation and spelling are terrible. If you were a poor student with a bad attitude, what do you honestly expect from your 15 year old daughter? I'm not saying bad spelling equates one to a bad person, but it usually shows one is lazy. Nowadays, laziness and slacking, and a general bad attitude is comon in a lot of kids. Those with poor role models are only going to have even more of an axe to grind. Be honest...you didn't even bother to use the automatic spell checker Yahoo provides when asking a question. This just says to me that you are a big slacker and haven't been raising her correctly from day one.  

What does your husband have to say about her attitude?  

Answer 2

Try talking to her and maybe trying counseling. Or find somebody that she can actually talk to without reservation.

Answer 3

She needs help.  Your a good mom for caring so much. :)  Find a good therapist.

Answer 4

uh yeah she seems normal..  

Answer 5

Hmmm. She NOT spoiled. Well lets see. She has a cell phone, boyfriend, steals from relatives, and tells YOU what to do. Sounds a little spoiled to me. These are all things I didnt have or do when I was 15. My dad was strict. Very strict. But you dont see him on here asking questions about me. Grow up. Be assertive. And take control of your daughter. Gawwdd.

Answer 6

well im 16 and done all these things...she is growing uup...everyone has a rebel side!

Answer 7

Unfortunately for you, she's in one of the worst years of her life. That makes it one of the worst years of yours, too.

You need to talk to her. No knee-jerk reactions-- you'll just make her shut you out. That is not what you're looking to do.

Sit her down in a calm situation (maybe take her to dinner at her favorite resturant?) Tell her that you're concerned about her. Ask her what she knows about contraception, STDs, pregnancy. Run hypothetical situations by her. What does she plan on doing of the gets chlamydia? Pregnant? If the condom breaks? If people start calling her names? When boys "hit-it-and-quit-it"?

Explain to her the emotional effects of sexual activity. Explain what will happen to her if she takes nude pictures and sends them to boys (her reputation will be ruined, etc.).

Explain to her that there's more to life than boys and s*x. Tell her that she needs to focus her time and energy on things that matter (school? the arts?).

Grounding is rarely ever the answer. Have restricted computer/phone use and tell her you're monitoring her closely, even if you aren't. I doubt she'd have any way to figure that out.

Good luck =D

Answer 8

i have been in exactly the same situation, with nude pics on p.c with my 15 year old daughter.

i am assuming that she has sent them to other people, cause why else would they be on there?

i called the police to have a word with her, as what the pics count as are kiddy p**n as she is under 18. though obviously no action was taken ( didnt expect there to be), they gave her all the facts and really shocked her into understanding the possible outcome of her actions with regards to perverts, how her pics moight show up later in life to ruin her career, how her sending them to another child would constitute a crime of lewd images . its worth a try, it worked for us.

she told me that she hates her body, and felt that she got some attention from it which made her feel attractive.

she has had successful counselling about her low self esteem.

good luck

Answer 9

talk it out mom

she sounds a little out of control

especially for 15!

keep her grounded until she finally gets that she has to be punished

take away the tv, computer, phone, EVERYTHING

Answer 10

Start from scratch. Tell her that she has to gain your trust and respect. Take everything away from her - computer, phone, tv, friends - and make her work to get her things back. Then be very cautious when getting her things back to her. Talk to her about her sexuality, about getting pregnant and STD's. A lot of her information on getting pregnant and STD's is from her friends and i'm sure a lot of it is wrong. Try spending more time with her doing things.