I need an honest opinion about a possible eating disorder?

Question

I am 35. I have a 15 yr old daughter and a 12 yr old son, so I am in no way a teenager myself. I know that eating disorders mainly occur among younger women and girls. I am 5 feet 9 inches tall and I weigh 124 pounds. I do feel fat and I do restrict what I eat, sometime to the point of not eating anything for 2 or more days. I walk 6.8 miles everyday at a pace of one mile for every 13 minutes. I dont take diet pills, I dont barf, I dont binge, and I dont use laxatives. My dad told me today that he is afraid that he is going to bury me because of the weight loss. I have had co-workers make comments as well regarding my weight and the fact I never eat at work. I will admit that my life is TOTALLY out of control and I probably need help, but this seems to be the only thing in my life that I CAN control. I dont have insurance right now, and I dont open up well to others. What should I do to get others to stop worrying about me?

Answer 1

to be honest i think you have anorexia. binging/purging is bulimia so you dont need those symptoms to have an eating disorder.

ive been through it.

your life is out of control.

you honestly need therapy..and you have to want help.

if you want to get better and you get help. then you will eventually be able to control yourself.

im 18, and i still go on and off anorexia.

i honestly dont think it ever tryly goes away..but i feel for you.

Answer 2

Don't think that weight-issues only affect teens and people in their young twenties ... they affect people of all sexes and ages, especially in today's day and age.

What you are experiencing is quite common actually. Many many women are not happy with how they look. This is just the way things are these days. It has something to do with the TV culture, fitness-obsession, whatever ... we live in a time where people obsess about how they look *all* the time.

Let's not worry about what the source of the issue is, since we can sit here all night and philosophize about it. Let's instead worry about whether it is a problem for *you*, and if it is, how to fix it.

First, decide if you problem is being over-weight. Really sit down, and research online, and see if excess weight is the reason why you don't like how you look. Be stern and honest with yourself, because you might be using the over-weight thing as an excuse for something else you don't like about yourself. Face your fears bravely and find out if the weight is the actual problem.

If you gather from your honest-personal research that you are indeed overweight, then, by all means, exercise more and eat better. Don't worry about what others think. Every time they make a comment, just calmly reassure them that you are indeed doing ok and that if you ever get into a problematic stage, you would indeed ask for help (which you should).

If, however, you gather that the weight-obsession is just really an excuse, then try to break the habit. Yes, it is hard. Yes, it's sometimes easier to just obsess about something like this to make the real problem temporarily disappear. Don't fall for that self-mind-trick. If this is the case, then start eating a little more, day by day, and start focusing less on how you weigh, and on other things in your life instead. With time, you will find that your weight will reach a "normal" setpoint and everyone will be happy with it, including you.

Remember, the best study of life is how it is, not how we want it to be.

Good luck.

  

Answer 3

Anorexia is all about control....you just wrote a great brief description of an anorexia, in the early stages.  What should you do to get people to stop worrying?  Get some help...usually there are support groups, check your paper.  We are now seeing anorexia in 80 year old women, and in men.  It is no longer a young girls/women's disorder.  You are not going to be able to deal with this without some therapy.  It will get worse, your health will degenerate.  See if you can find a therapist who can negotiate fees, make some calls.  You are being a poor example to your children.  Do it for them.  (psychologist)

Answer 4

if you want others to stop worrying about you, you should give them a reason to stop worrying about you, and my advice just follow a healthy diet you sound a bit too skinny already and maybe over working the exercise.. you dont sound like your having fun, wats life without fun..

my adive, see a psych or talk to someone you know might listen and help you and start a new journey to being a happy person that likes you they are.. its hard to like everything about yourself, h**l i could point out heaps of things about myself, but as corny as it sounds, just deal with it..

you dont wanna be 70 years old and look back on life and know you wasted it, dealing with these demons in your head..

get fixed and good luk!!!!!

Answer 5

If you are not sure of what you feel of that possible eating disorder, you can always get help from people who can help you determine if you have such disorder or you're on your way of it.