I need as much advice i can get..?

Question

i'm a sixteen year old girl & i am very mature for my age. there are times that i can be very immature too, don't get me wrong. i am in a "relationship" with a twenty year old. we care & love each other so much..(& i know there's going to be some people to shoot me down by saying i don't know what love & ect.) there's only one problem..it's that my mom hates him & is doing everything in her power to keep us apart & she has the law on her side. i don't know what to do because what she's doing to me is breaking my heart & it's killing me. is it really that hard to let your child be happy? she said that she doesn't hate him because we're exactly four years apart (we have the same birthday) but she hates him because we were together before she was introduced to him. it's not his fault he hadn't met her before she found out, it was mine. my mom & step-dad aren't the easiest people to talk to..i don't know what to do anymore because i'm always depressed with everything going on.. help? please.

Answer 1

Well since ur parents are not easy to talk to im not sure. go to ur mom and tell her that he makes u happy. And that she should be happy for u. i really dont know what more to say!! sorry!! I hope i helped!!

Answer 2

Here it is:  How much can a 16 year old and a 20 year old have in common except s*x.  Now don't get me wrong but ask yourself why can't he find someone in his age group.  Many men who date younger women are looking to control them, especially with you being that young.  You have not had that much experience with men yet. If I had listened to my mom years ago I would not have had the problems that I had.  Take some advice.

Answer 3

you need to do a cry out for attention STOP doing your homework! dont do the work in school DONT talk to anyone Stay home sleep all day and be depressed  Communication to 0% to your parents do not talk to them. You are Mute and Silent at all times make it so you are like never there. And be in your room all day! and that will get your parents Attention if they care for you enough then if they say why are you so depressed whats wrong hun? you say IM MAD AT YOU BEcAUSE YOU WOULDNT LET ME DATE MY BF! thats what i would do!

Answer 4

ok thats so selfish of your mom and tell her that some people that get married are fifteen years apart my best friends parents are like that.

Answer 5

Wow...this is a very good question and rightly so.  My daughter is16 and her only dilemma is trying to get me to like a boy who is her same age but I don't think is right for her. One thing you can do is ask your parents what it is that you or he can do to make it more acceptable to them. Let them know how their reactions are tearing you up inside. All parents want their children to be happy and safe and sometimes we go way too far to protect our children. Obviously if you are going out with a 20 year old then your parents are ok with the age difference and you knew pretty early that it was acceptable for them. So just ask what would make them happy with this situation and you might be surprised at the answer.

Answer 6

just keep seeing him.  romeo and juliet type stuff.  once you're seventeen, it's legal.  

by the way, it's called the DL - da down low.  keep it there

Answer 7

OMG Your mom hates your boyfriend! That's awful. What did you really expect her to do welcome him with open arms? He is 4 years older than you. And what does a 20 year old guy want with a 16 year old girl? That is jail bait. And your mom knows this.Yes your mom should just let her child be happy, drop out of school and start having babies. And i don't believe it's because you didn't introduce him, it's because he is 20.And you didn't want them to know.

Answer 8

Wait. If it is true love on both ends, it wouldn't be a problem to pick up where you left of when you are "legal". It's easier said than done I'm sure, but 4 years difference at your age is a big jump. Oh, and your mom says she doesn't like him because you were with him before she was introduced to him, but we all know that couldn't be true. It's the age spread.

Answer 9

Maybe if you try bringing him around her more often, but strictly in a platonic way? The more he's in her proximity, the more she will begin to get used to him being in yours =P

Answer 10

she's doing that because she cares about you and doesn't want you to get hurt. i'm not going to doubt your love, i knew what real love was when i was 16. maybe you should lay low for a while though because 4 years is a big age gap, especially since you are underage.

Answer 11

get a therapist...

Answer 12

This guy is too old for you and there's something wrong if he can't see that. In 2 years you'll wonder what the h**l you were thinking.

Answer 13

Why did you ever not introduce the guy to your mom?

Did you guys talked about this?  Did you apologize?

Are you sure there is nothing wrong with your chosen one?  Is he a responsible human being to impress your parents?

Talk to her and prove her wrong.

There's nothing wrong with the age gap,  

Don't get depressed.  If you think, there's nothing seriously wrong then go on.  Depression will not help.  Overcome it by facing the situation you are in.

Answer 14

um well i think part of it is because hes that much older plus if u can be immature i bet shes worried u'll do something stupid and guys that age can have some crazy sick n perverted he may not be like that not all  guys r but u should just sit and have a long talk with ur mom about wat she doesn't like about him and then come 2 a conclusion should u brek up with him or not

hope i helped

suzy

Answer 15

She's just being a mom. At one time your dad was giving her some pickle tickle without her parents knowing. I'm being real, you're a kid and he's cool with that for now. Trust me, regardless of how you feel, he'll be 21 soon and will go out to bars, have a wild time, and WILL HOOK UP WITH OTHER GIRLS! It is only a matter of time before you beg and plead with him to spend time with you instead of going out drinking with his friends. You'll become a hindrance, he'll dump you and break your heart. Do the right thing for yourself and end it NOW! One day when you are older I can only hope you remember these words.