I need clarity on "honor your parents" in the bible?

Question

Please, only someone who has a real relationship with The Lord Jesus Christ should answer this question because I'm confused.

I know the bible says for us to honor our parents. I do respect my parents but deep inside I can't stand them. Thinking about them literally makes me sick to my stomach with a migraine.

Although I honestly love them and feel sorry for them, they are irresponsible, immature and selfish thieves. They continue to ID Theft My 10 brothers and sisters and I, Our Dad has never done anything for us but steal abuse lie and cheat us, our mom continues to threaten sending my lil bros and sis's away and doesn't care where they go as long as her new boyfriend doesn't leave her.

Im 24 years old, about to buy my own house and every time I begin to do something positive in my own life, I gotta deal with our mom threatening to send all them away. There are only 5 lil ones left in the house with her. 2 are in high school, 3 in middle school.

The rest of us are over 18. We all have the same parents. My oldest brother (im 2nd oldest) and I have pressed charges of ID theft on our dad but the police wont do jack. I can't even live my life without worrying about what will happen to my bros and sis's next.

Please explain how do I "honor" my parents when they've NEVER EVER been there for me nor my bros and sis's and all they did is s***w eachother to make us and raise ourselves.

Im sick of this. I don't know what to do.

Answer 1

I wish you luck.. Jesus has the same opinion as his Father in Heaven...

Deuteronomy 21:18-21 (NIV) If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who does not obey his father and mother and will not listen to them when they discipline him, his father and mother shall take hold of him and bring him to the elders at the gate of his town. They shall say to the elders, "This son of ours is stubborn and rebellious. He will not obey us. He is a profligate and a drunkard."*(*he is probably a teenager!) THEN ALL THE MEN OF HIS TOWN SHALL STONE HIM TO DEATH* (*NOT BY ABORTION... GOD FORBID...!!! The old perverts at the city gate were just waiting there for the next child to be stoned to death! And only God fearing parents would bring their rebellious son to be stoned to death in FULL obedience to the law of God!) You must purge the evil from among you. ALL ISRAEL WILL HEAR OF IT AND BE AFRAID.* (*It works all the time! Have your unruly child stoned to death in full public view by ALL THE MEN IN HIS TOWN and all the other kids in town will learn to stay in line! How loving can you get? I really feel like using “profane” words to tell you, but I don’t want to be deleted!)  

Some people worry that TV and movies have far too much violence and s*x in them. But somebody noted that the Bible has the best most brutal violence and shocking s*x stories of all time! At least in the movies the bad guys always lose in the end -- they are caught and sent to prison or they die a horrible death befitting an evil man. Goodness always prevails on TV and in movies, but in the Bible the bad “Godly people” committing the most heinous crimes against humanity are the Christian heroes and they always get away with it.

Never mind that God the Father commanded, “Thou shalt honour thy father and thy mother!” no matter how evil they treat you… in the Bible script Jesus came up with his own “change now” ideas about who gets saved and goes to Heaven…  

Matthew 10:34-37 (NIV) "Do not suppose that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I did not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to turn

       " 'a man against his father,

       a daughter against her mother,

       a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law—

your enemies will be the members of your own household.' "ANYONE WHO LOVES THEIR FATHER OR MOTHER MORE THAN ME IS NOT WORTHY OF ME; ANYONE WHO LOVES A SON OR DAUGHTER MORE THAN ME IS NOT WORTHY OF ME.

Luke 14:26 (NIV) Jesus Christ said, "If anyone comes to me and does not HATE* (*Greek=”miseo”=to abhor!) his father and mother, his wife and children, his brothers and sisters--yes, even his own life--he cannot be my disciple."

BEFORE JESUS CAME... PEOPLE WERE LIVING IN PEACE AND HARMONY UNTIL JESUS STARTED TO TEACH HIS MESSAGE OF UTTER HATE AND REJECTION OF THE FELLOW MEMBERS OF ONE'S FAMILY SO THEY CAN GO TO HEAVEN...

The God is Love idea leaves very much to be desired so I dropped out of the Christian ministry because I can't use the Bible...!  The Bible God worshipped by the Christians in America is the one that forced his chosen people to eat their own children for dinner NOT AS A PUNISHMENT, but as an option in time of famine. God never objected about killing and cooking a child for dinner! Bigot Christians who are not openly pro-life because of an abortion in the family are furiously anti-g*y! And vice versa!

Answer 2

My suggestion to you is to just do the best that you can. That's all a person can do.

Answer 3

First I appreciate your honesty and how you are trying to do the right thing. I want you to know God knows you and the situation you are in. I want you to know Jesus Christ is your Savior and brother who already paid the price of all your sins in the Garden of Gesthemane and all you and I have to do is through prayer, ask for forgiveness and not do the wrong choice again to be forgiven. Your parents will make bad choices and unfortunately you will have to learn what to and not to do so when you are a parent, you can avoid those mistakes. Continue to honor your parents, as long it is not to do something illegal or abusive to you or others. I included this link www.mormon.org because this is how I found some good answers in life to help me through the challenges my parents and others caused me. My prayers are with you and you will become a great person for holding strong.  

Answer 4

God tells us to honor and mother and father so our days will be long on this earth.  Not their days, but our days.  The reason God wants us to forgive them and honor them even if they are rotten, stinking parents is because if we don't forgive and we get bitter it only harms us and not them.  Pray and ask God to bless your parents and to change their heart and minds toward your younger brothers and sisters.  Ask God to reveal Himself to them so they will change.  If you continually pray this prayer for your parents, God will eventually do something to change the situation.

You just told us that "thinking about them literally makes you sick to your stomach with a migraine headache."  This is exactly what I am telling you.  Bitterness toward your parents is making you ill.  Pray for them, ask God to handle them and change their hearts and give your family relief from their wickedness.  

Tell your mother that you love her but tell her how she treated you and how she is treating your little brothers and sisters.  Tell her that she needs to repent and let the Lord change her heart.  Tell her that you are praying for her and your father also.

If you can't say this with words to her, then write it on paper and give the paper to her.  You may need to take your brothers and sisters into your home if she leaves with the boyfriend.  Pray and ask God to deal with your mother, but do let your mother know that she has not been a good mother to you, but tell her that you love her only because she is your flesh and blood mother.  It is always best to tell the truth, because some people really think they are okay and perfect until we let them know that we disagree.  

I've found in life that some people must be hit over the head with a 2x4 before you can even get their attention.  I am kidding, but I am trying to make a point that some people, you cannot talk to no matter what you say or how you say it.  But, God can get their attention if you pray and ask Him to intervene.

When you don't know what to do - pray!

Answer 5

You will get very few answers from the people with the qualifications you describe.  At least not answers that will actually tell you something you don't already know.

Because you do not wish to have MY advice, I will sit back and read the c**p you will get.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Without them, you would not have life. They are the only ones who could have produced you.

Honor them for giving you life.

Answer 7

Keep your distance from them and you can honor from afar.

Answer 8

My heart goes out to you.It's sad to see things like this happening yet it happens every day.

Anyway,to get to your question.You should always honor your parents for bringing you in this world if for nothing else.God wanted you here and He has a purpose for you,if your parents hadn't brung you in the world then that just wouldn't be possible for you to do the Lords work.Unfortunately,in your case,the roles are reversed to where the child becomes the parent because of their irresponsibilities.When a child is disobedient,it is not a time for hate,it's a time for correction and love.Exhort them as a loved one and not the enemy.In return,you are respecting your seed line.They are not perfect but they are yours.

Answer 9

Generally, honoring you parents would just loving them and respecting them. however, that doesn't necessarily mean that you have do what they say if you know what they are doing is wrong. It doesn't always mean parents it could mean a mother or father figure. If you do not like your parents at all, that's ok as long as there's a good reason behind it which you have. As long as you  do what you know is best for them.

Answer 10

There is honoring, and there is enabling. Don't enable them.

Answer 11

How do you feel about removing the lil ones form that home , say if you prayed and felt moved by God to keep them and be their guardian, may be you and the older siblings... Pray!!!!! Jesus will make a way for you , bless you for caring about them , the lil ones and wanting to find a na answer! I will pray for you!

Answer 12

I am a Christian.

To honor ones parents means that you treat them with kindness and respect.

It does not mean you lay down and allow them to kick you, abuse you, or lead you to do what is wrong in the eyes of the Lord and man.

The honor the scriptures are referring to is that you speak respectfully to your parents. When their requests line up with the scriptures you are to obey them. When they are old, you do what you can to help them. In other words treat them the way you want to be treated.

God never intended for children to follow their parents, if those parents don't follow the teachings of Christ. God does however want you to speak respectfully to them.

I will pray for you.  I am so glad you are 24. It is now time for you to start relying on God for your guidance and provisions. He is trustworthy, and I know He will help you with this.

Answer 13

To honor your parents means to respect them and to love them even if they aren't the greatest parents. You should not hate them instead you should be thankful to them because they brought you to life, and let them know what they are doing wrong, sit and talk with them. God will bless you if you love your parents and respect them, and you should do that with everyone too, like the bible says to love the ones that you don't even like that much.  

Answer 14

Separate your parents from what they do.  You can love them and still not like what they do.  Also, they seem to make it clear that they do not respect themselves.  It sounds CPS (Child Protective Service) should be notified for the benefit of your siblings still at home.  If they are not having proper care, they should be removed from the home and be given proper supervision and care.

These immature parents is one reason our young people have so many problems.  Don't let your siblings have to continue living like this.

Answer 15

being able to honor ur parents in ur case would be doin wats best for them

mabey trying to help them get there lifes on track it also means to make them proud that ur their son, it might seem like they are horible parents but deep inside there trying to be the best parents they can be. keep ur trust in god and things will get better.