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I need help, I think I'm depressed.

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Okay, here's the thing: I've been feeling down for a long time. I've had thoughts about suicide, almost started cutting, self-injuring, and running away from home just to get rid of everything. I took a medical test and it told me that I'm depressed and I should go seek medical attention right away. But I can't because I'm 14 and I haven't told my parents or siblings that I think I am depressed. It's hard to tell them because I dyed my hair black and my family thinks I'm going emo and they'll think I'm just trying to get attention even though that's not true. It's even harder because my father's a cop and doesn't live with us anymore but in an apartment, and my mom comes home from work mad because of problems at work. I can never find time to tell them and we've had a suicide in my family which may worry them and freak out on me which I don't want to happen. The only person who knows that I may be depressed is my closest friend. I sent her some of my diary and she told me that she never would have expected this out of me because I'm always appearing off as a happy person even though on the inside I'm not. I can't find the right words to tell my parents because they may think this is "just a phase" which it isn't and has really been happening since the fourth grade when my dad moved out. I've done the research on depression and I believe that I am depressed. We also wouldn't be able to afford a doctor to my believing and I don't know how to tell them because of lack of privacy in the house. My parents are always in the living room and my two older siblings are in the room over where there is like an archway so you can hear everything that goes on in the living room. I just don't know how to tell them but I do know I need help. Please, I'm desperate to feel better and I don't know how to tell anyone except that one friend who I swore not to tell anyone else.

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  1. don't you have a counsellor at your school well if u do go to them they should help


  2. You should go see your GP, or your school counselor. They know exaclty what to do, and they can explain to your parents what has been happening. My father was depressed, (he was a cop) he seeked help, we all supported him and now he is all happy and fine. But it took time, just be aware of that.

    Hope this has helped

  3. find a way to talk to your parents. they will listen--if you tell them you need help. you can go to your local mental health office and they will help you, and it dont cost anything. you really need to see a counselor. depression is a real bad thing. i take meds everyday of my life for depression. stand up and be heard. make them listen!. you can email me if you want to. i will listen. god bless

  4. Depression is much more common than you think and many are in the same position as you. I do not know what to say because although its common there's never really anyway of advising something. Go to your local doctors and find leaflets or go on websites for depressed teenagers they would give much more helpful advice.

  5. it took  a lot of courage for you to write this see a doctor or go to a hospital.. ot tell close friends,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, ot try to speak to your family. one day at a time that's all we can live good luck

  6. You need to talk to someone honestly - someone like you

  7. hey hun, im really sorry you're going through all this. i can relate in a lot of ways, i was very depressed during middle school and high school. first, are you ever alone with either your mom or dad? maybe in the car or after your siblings go to bed? if theres no way you can talk to them or feel comfortable doing so, try talking to another adult. i strongly recommend either talking to your friend's parents, or another adult you look up to(maybe someone from church or a family friend).

    if you can, please, don't start cutting. its a habit you can't break once you start. it honestly doesnt get rid of the pain, and then youre also stuck with a scar. is there an activity that you really enjoy? try getting out all your emotions through that.

    if you want to talk anymore, just email me. im here for you.

  8. I have read your answer, and I think it would be very helpful of you let me help you through email. I am experienced and many people like you have got through there troubles with my help. I hope to hear from you! Trust me, I can really help x x x

  9. Can you talk to a teacher at school? Do you have a school nurse you can talk to? Can you make an appointment to see a doctor without your parents knowing, and discuss this with the doctor? Then, maybe the doctor can tell your parents how serious your problem is sweetie. OR try going to one of your parents, and saying "I really need to talk to you and for you to listen to me. I have a serious problem". You MUST talk to someone and you MUST get treated ASAP. In the meantime, think only POSITIVE and happy thoughts.

  10. well my advice is dont cut but sometimes..... yeah well. tell ur parents is my advice it take a lot of stress off (also undye ur hair, emo looks stupid) if they think its just a phase become forcful with them (but stay calm). if u cant manage that keep talking with ur friends they can help you, and of course wen school starts the counsellor there may be able to help. if u want of course u can email me via my profile im always happy to talk, and i seem to help people with props. good luck.  

  11. Just go talk to an adult that can help you or get you help (an aunt, uncle, mom, dad, teacher, coach, SOMEONE)

    And please dont swear your friend to secrecy becz if you cant speak up then your friend needs too.

    I was 14 and my best friend at the time told me she was planning her suicide, and she swore me to secrecy.  So i kept quiet for a few weeks till i noticed she was cutting and everything she said was about how much she hated life and how dying was the answer.  I ended up going to my science teacher at school mainly becz he was still pretty young and i felt hed be the easiest to talk to.  If you cant speak up then you need to let your friend.

    Maybe if you and your friend both go to someone together then you can have emotional support and you can get help

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