I need help, i've been crying since i got back from my first day of school!?

Question

it was today and i'm a 10th grader coming into a brand new school :(

i know it's childish and immature to cry this much about such petty things. but the other people don't seem to like it, allday i tried to approach them and say hi and stuff and they'd just say hi and walk away rather than just stay a few minutes with me... also everybody stared at me all day, i mean i know i'm new but last time i checked staring was still considered rude (i'm not a zoo animal!!)

then at the end of the day there were some kids calling me over to spend a bit of time with them but when i came over they really wouldn't include me in the conversation, even when i tried myself to talk to them, they wouldn't respond to me!!!

what's wrong with me? is this normal? help!!! i can't stop crying over my horrid first day and move on to the second day and the weeks/months ahead [hopefully with friends by then]

Answer 1

Dont worry,you dont deserve to try to be friends with people who take you for granted.I tried the same thing,people ignored me. dont be discouraged when people walk away,keep trying. I went to a new middle school and I only had one close friend the first year. Then you meet your friend's friend and so on. I was really shy in middle school, I'm sure you'll make more friends than I did.

Answer 2

1. Keep crying, it relieves stress.

2. Time is ultimate healer. I went into a new highschool as a sophmore last year. Get involved with something you enjoy and get to know people who share your interests.  

3. It is all normal. Especially at a very stressful time it can seem worse than it really is. Stay in touch with old friends and let people know who you are and be confident with  that .

Answer 3

i am a parent,I took my son to his new school,and just seeing that look of fear on his face made me feel horrible-I went home and cried and I am 32.you will be fine,just take it one day at a time and remember all the kids are pretty much just like you.GOD-bless

Answer 4

i had the same problem but you should go back and not let any of it bother you that's what i did i didn't let any of it bother me and its just because your new and that's going to happened to you but you should not worry  about it and you will be alright  

Answer 5

Suck it up. I went to four different schools in three different states during my fourth and fifth grades. You adapt, adopt, improvise.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

1  Look, I have never really been that great or good at making friend sat all. I've already graduated from high school, and each year I had only a few friends, When I say 'I had only a few friends' I mean that I had about 13 friends each year. And that's because not every one liked me.

2  In my opinion the 'teenagers' that called you over for you to spend a bit of time with them, did that so you would not feel awkward.

3  Then when you came over they really wouldn't include you in the conversation, even when you tried yourself to talk to them, They wouldn't respond to you.

Again try to understand what they are talking about even though it might be had to do. The reason that they probably did not respond to you; is because you are new to the area and the school. I would make friends with the teenagers in the area and neighborhood, and make sure they go to the same school as you.

4  What's wrong with you? Nothing is wrong; your in a new area and new school also nobody really knows you that well.

5  Is this normal? Yes. It's just like ninth grade and you don't know any one. Just

help!!! i can't stop crying over my horrid first day and move on to the second day and the weeks/months ahead [hopefully with friends by then]

I hope that this helps you  

Answer 8

I had the same problem in school

But you know what? I have had one friend, and honestly I could not have asked for more. She was always there for me when I needed her, and she was like a sister to me.

In your case, you should stop crying. Think about it, are these people really worth crying over? Is it really worth giving these people the POWER to make you so upset? No, they are not worth that. No one is worth your tears. If people can not see the kind of person that you are, then they do not deserve to be your friend, you just need to remember that honey.

Also, perhaps what might help is try and find someone with a common interest. Try approaching another person that looks like they are in your shoes. Try talking to the girl that sits alone for lunch, I guarantee you are not the only one in the school with this problem.

Just remain confident, keep your head up high.

Answer 9

ur not a freak ur normal it was urfirst day u cant expect to make new friends right away the second u go just wait a little keep being friendly and nice try to talk to people and have a convo and soon before u know it u will have many new friends and its ok to cry but u need to understand u got to be patient things take time its hard being the new kid but ull do fine trust me

good luck :)

Answer 10

Aw.. I've moved SO many times and been to SO many different schools, and now I have to start highschool in a few weeks when i Finally found the best school..

Stupid world.. XD

If it was only the first day, who cares? Calm down. Some people aren't very talkative, and might be shy.

If they stare at you, walk up to them and say "Hi" just to annoy them. =D

(Something I do.. hey, it works sometimes.. I'm friends with a couple people I annoyed. =P)

Erm..

Yeah. Just try to calm down, maybe don't go saying "Hi"

If you're sitting next to someone, say you like their shoes, shirt, pants, Tighty-wighties, whatever. :P

They'll usually say thanks and give you a compliment, or run from you in terror..

Either way works.. =/

You'll find a friend... You have to, otherwise there's no hope for me.. =[