I need help I dont know what to do can you help me?

Question

I really like my boyfriend and I know that he has strong feelings for me too its just that I cant have s*x with just one person I mean I am trying so hard. Its just that one person cant please me as well and I dont know what to do. My boyfriend is already on the verge of breaking up with me, and I cant let him do that.Although I kind of now have feelings for someone else but thats only because my boyfriend is moving way too fast. He is asking me when are we going to have kids, move in together, and have a baby. I'm only 18 I am still trying to be young not an adult with all these decisions. Now I am in the middle of thinking that maybe I do want to have a kid or maybe I dont and one day I do and then the next day I dont. I think that I am just scared of commitment and scared that if something like a baby happens he will leave me.... I dont know what to do or say anymore I need some advice pls.............

Answer 1

    Some search all their life for the right one. Some find him/her,  most don't. Timing is everything. Too young for anything but friendship. The right one will do almost everything right. I mean, will totally complete you. Soul mates are far and in between. Sounds like you need to move on. My advice; enjoy your young life, experience all you can. Just remember, you can't go back and change anything.  Enjoy your FREEDOM. Experience LIFE. You are not ready for any of what your boyfriend is suggesting. You are insecure which isn't good. Don't be scared of being alone. I've  seen worst things. Move on. Good Luck.

Answer 2

If you truly care about him and you really want to keep him around, youre going to have to make the sacrifice of monogomy and be intimate with ONLY him.

If what he is talking about (as far as kids and moving in together) is way to fast for you, sit him down, and have a conversation with him about it. Explain to him that you are not in that place yet. You are not ready to commit in that way. And that while you will have to make a sacrifice to keep him around(only being intimate with him), in the same way he will need to make a sacrifice also, and stop pushing you where youre not ready to go.

i hope this helps sweetie!

Answer 3

there's nothing wrong with wanting s*x with different ppl, but what that means is your not ready to settle down, nor should you be with one man, unless there is an "understanding" set firmly between both of you.

   As for a baby, get that idea out of your head right now. When your ready for a baby, there won't be any mind changes or questions about it. If you have one now, you'll resent it, it makes one feel so trapped. Nor will this jerk you call a boyfriend hang around, but he will put you through hel* before he leaves.

    Let the bf go, he is useing manipulation as a tactic to force a child on you.  

    He obviously has control issues, the "leaving" tactic is the first thing they use once they think your hooked on them, his type use your emotions and love against you.  After the child, he will use the "leaving" ploy for anything that gets him his way.

     And then his true behaviour will come out, leaving you at home alone with the child, controling the money, where you go and when, who you may talk too. He will try to control every breath you take.

      Trust me, i can prove it too you.  Tell him you think you should break up, because he is rushing you, that you are not ready to have children, or move in with him.

       If you beat him to the draw and try break up first, he will back down and tell you, it's ok to wait, he will treat you good as gold untill he's sure he has a stronger hold on your emotions, then he will start the same c**p all over again.

       Deep down you know !! Listen to those instincts and always go with your first decision/thoughts, they are right, never second guess them.  

       Like you said, your 18 and very few are ready for marriage/live in or kids at that age, but far far too many mess up by doing it, don't join that line or you'll be giving up your life for the next 18yrs. A child must come first every time.

Answer 4

it's too early to think of marriage, have s*x with whomever you like, just use protection