I need help. Please.?

Question

Okay so i have been going out with my boyfriend for a couple of months and we love eachother. I dont want to break up with him or loose him, but my parents looked at my text and found out that we were talking about s*x and they flipped out. And now they dont like him, but i love him and dont want my parents to get in the way. What do i do? How can i make them like him again? Please help.

Answer 1

Hon, your parents don't like YOUR BOYFRIEND, they don't like THE IDEA of you having s*x, and like normal human beings, they've kinda made him the scapegoat, so they're transferring their worry and frustration onto him.

s*x is a really big decision to make. I know you guys are just talking about it, but parents being parents, they will get in the way - especially since most kids would lie and say they aren't having s*x when they actually ARE, and I'm SURE you're not one of those kids =)

The best thing for you to do at this point is to show your parents how responsible and mature you're becoming the older you get. Help out around the house, spend more time with them like going on a family date-thing or whatever. Let them know that they're not losing you, which is the root cause of their reaction, and that you're growing up well. Once parents are convinced of their kids' goodness, they tend to reevaluate some of their reactions. But whatever you do don't shove your boyfriend down your parents' throats. Give it some time. They do NOT need to see him at this time. Show them first you appreciate them, then slowly start talking about your boyfriend again, like how much you and he appreciate each other, some of the issues (avoid s*x) you talk about, how you're doing in school, etc. Your parents really do wanna be your friends, believe it or not. Never met a parent that didn't.

Slowly, slowly =) Growing up takes time! I pretty much wanted to rush it when I was younger so I could start getting paid for working - I'm a money-grubbing *****, I admit it =) - but now that I'm older, I find it's overrated, especially cellulite =D

Good luck! Let me know what happens.

Answer 2

Well, if the texts said that you were planning to have s*x then it is understandable that they are going to be a little freaked out.  If you guys weren't, just explain the entire situation.  If you were, maybe you guys should wait a little while to make your parents comfortable.  Just say "We aren't planning on having s*x any time soon and my boyfriend would never try to pressure me into it or do anything that could be risky or make me uncomfortable."  But really, it could be a while before they trust him again.

Answer 3

Just make sure that he does not do anything like that (that they know about). All you can do now is try to remake a good impression because parents are difficult, so it will take some time.

Answer 4

first of all. always!! delete your texts whenever you get em. my mom tries to but i always delete mine. bring him over for dinner. dont do anything bad or kiss or anything. dont even talk about it.