I need help? WHat should i do about this? LONG BUT PLEASE HELP!

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I reposted, hoping to get a few more answers:

Ok, so i want to be on-line schooled for about 3 months until i move, because my school is horrible and i don't fit in, and i'm not rich, so obviously no one likes me. But my dad is freaking out about it! I understand that it is a big step for him, and i am trying to be as lenient as i can with him, but he is making it hard when all he does is yell at me! He took me out to Subway today to talk to me about it and explain, but when i tried to explain my side he kept cutting me off! I started crying a little (he doesnt lik etears, which is my fault because i knew that, but i couldnt stop crying because i was so upset, so the crying is my fault), which made things worse. Then when we left and got in the car, he started yelling (ha and spitting, he spits when he yells that loud lol) at the top of his lungs at me and getting all ticked off. My parents are not married, but they have me, and my dad told me he was gonna take my mom to court over this and fight her against it! My mom has sole-custody of me, so she decides either way, but everyone is making me feel bad! My mom isnt scared of my dad, but i feel bad that she has to hire a lawyer to fight my dad! She told me she doesnt care and that my dad has been like this since she met him. But then i feel bad for making my dad yell at me like that. And i feel bad for my mom because my dad brought up the fact that i have moved 10 times in 14 years (which is how old i am). My mom wants me to see a counselor about my dad's moods and how i can deal with them the right way, cause apparently its not healthy to go from beong happy to as sad as he made me today. I have never EVER been that upset in my life. All of this on top of my mom gettting married next month. I am falling apart here! Any help and advice for me? Should i let her take me to a counselor? How can i stop this??? I need help! Please! I don't know what to do anymore, because no one is listening to me! I don't want anyone to hate me because my parents are fighting this bad! My dad's side of the family has a tenacy to "dis-own" the people they are mad at til they get over being mad at them. I dont want my very own family to hate me! Please please PLEASE help me!

Answer 1

if counseling is being offered to you take it.  if you see no progress in your current life...you can find some peace talking with a counselor.  if you find no progress in how to deal with your current homelife/school...consider changing counselors.  good luck  

Answer 2

First of all you didn't make your dad yell at you his helplessness over the situation made him angry so he yelled at the only target he had.It is hard to change schools as often as you have that being said kids are the same whoever you go just the names and faces change.It wouldn't you to stay in school just to keep from falling in a rut.You might feel out of place at the Rich school but isn't it better to deal with stupid kids then your parents battling?

Answer 3

Yes go to a counslor it'll make your life worth living again.good luck

Answer 4

hey girl i know how you feel, my parents aren't married either but I'm here. I'm not rich so all the rich kids try to look down on me. but i'm moving to a completely different town. my mom is getting married next year to one of my brothers dads. as for your parents I'd go to each of them and tell them that u need to talk with them. then once everyone is seated explain to them that this is your time to talk and it would mean a lot to you if they could hold there comments until after your done speaking. tell em how u feeling. tell your mom how u feel about counseling although u should give it a try.give them reasons why u should be schooled from on-line. even though i don't see the problem with moving cause different people a everyday. I'm sure this might sound harsh to u but stop acting like it's the worst thing in the world. moving isn't that bad actually. cause this is my 7th time moving so stop acting like a freaking baby.

Answer 5

It's your decision what you want to do with your life, not any1 elses.

Yes go to the counselor.

You can't your dad wont see past his own view.  

Answer 6

It sounds like you're in a really difficult position right now.  You want to please your dad and at the same time, you feel bad for him.  First off, I suggest that you take up the offer and go to counseling.  Explaining your feelings on yahoo answers or a diary or even a friend can only go so far, but a counselor can really help relive the stress off of your shoulders.  Next, you should understand that none of this is your fault at all.  It's not your fault that your father has such a temper or such a horrible way of dealing with problems in life (My dad's side of the family has a tenacy to "dis-own" the people they are mad at til they get over being mad at them.) This is definitely not the correct way to deal with family relatives and will only create more tension. I don't blame you for trying to make your parents happy, but there's only so much you can do on your part. Perhaps you should take a break from your dad, let him cool down? There's not much you can do with a person who's stubborn and refuses to see your side of the story. Plus, you're just trying to make peace with your father and please him, so you do not deserve to be yelled at and cut off like this.