I need help! What to say to my 10-almost-11 year old daughter?

Question

Okay, here's the situation.

My almost-11-year-old daughter is always telling me how fat she thinks she is. She hasn't hit puberty yet, but she is getting close. It's not that she's fat, but she does have a bit of a belly. (I keep telling her all 10 year olds do, but then she says, "then why don't emily, caroline, lauren, and joey have a belly?") It's true that they don't have as much body fat, and they tell her that they weigh about 65 lbs, which I don't think helps, since she weighs 73 lbs. Mothers, can you please help me? is it just baby fat that will go away when she hits puberty, or are her depressed suspicions true? HELP!

Answer 1

ok. shes ten years old and weighs 73 pounds. she is deffinitely not fat. i dont kno where she got that idea but my sisters are ten and tehy both weigh over 80. yea, it will go away during puberty but shes deffinitely not fat.

Answer 2

I am not a parent but if she is 73 lbs i dont see anything wrong with her and yea her belly will probably go away soon because she may grow into or something. I am 12 and weigh 105 lbs and i dont have the belly and i look fantastic i jus like to eat alot and i think i am kinda fat becuz i weigh 105 sometimes but alot of kids my age are way bigger than me but i think she is perfectly fine becuz when i was 10 goin on 11 i doubt i wore 73 lbs...so tell her dont worry about what other children say about her.

Answer 3

if ur daughter is still brave enough to wear a bikini, then it must not be too bad. it doesn't sound bad at all...but as long as she's wearing a bikini, it must not bother her too much. but then again, idk what kinda swimsuit she has. 73 lbs is not at all anything to worry about at her age. don't worry. everything will be fine.

Answer 4

Your daughter will grow and thin out during puberty; "baby fat" will go away. In the meantime, make sure your daughter knows she is a healthy size by going to your doctor and talking about it and having her eat healthily.

Answer 5

i gained a ton of weight when i was going through puberty.

she is just probably more physically developed than her friends.

Say you'll go for walks with her and eat healthier with her..or go for runs with her.

**Good luck!

Answer 6

maybe, but maybe not.

Best to talk to a doctor if she's concerned.

She sounds like a healthy weight.

Just tell her that there are people who are really fat

(show her some pictures of obese people) and tell her to be grateful she doesn't look like them. And tell her thats what fat people look like.

Not having a little bit of a belly.

Or just tell her if she thinks that she is fat to exercise more.

Answer 7

Say "It's because you're about to hit puberty. You're hormones are going and it means that your weight will go up and down until you're done with puberty."

Its either that or baby fat.

Answer 8

Thats normal for a 10 year old. Actually no its normal for an 8 year old, so she's underweight, not fat. Just tell her that she's fine the way she is and besides being skinny isn't all its made up to be.

Answer 9

Tell her that everyone is different in shape and size.  Tell her as she grow it will start to go away, or exercise with her if she can't wait.

Answer 10

It could be just a little bit of belly fat or its possible that she is about to grow a few inches and just needs the extra pounds for now. If she is really concerned then you should encourage her to lose the weight a healthy way by getting involved in sports or use it as an excuse to go to the gym together. It is best that you help her come up with a solution before she takes matters into her own hands. She probably isn't fat...but that mentality can be dangerous if you don't nip it in the bud.

Answer 11

honestly, 73 pounds is totally normal!but yea, it will go away when puberty starts

Answer 12

my sister is 12 and she weights almost 90 but she has no belly. but shes tall. like over 5'. im sure that as your daughter grows that belly would go away. but if she really wants a change soon just tell her to do some situps every night (20-30) and she should see a difference. and try to get her to drink more water and she should notice a considerable difference soon.

Answer 13

I had the exact same problem.

Except I hit puberty when I was 8.

I had a biggg buddha belly, and I still think i do.

Honestly, anything you say will p**s her off.

Dont tell her she doesnt, cuz that will just make her feel like your lying to her.

Dont tell her she does cuz thats just mean.

I was 100lbs when i was her age, and if shes only 8lbs heavier than her friends, thats not a lot!

BTW Im 12 so you can have her talk to me if you want!

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