I need help/advice/tips!!!!??

Question

So, here's the story. I'm 14 years old, and right now, I'm living with my Dad's ex-girlfriend, and her name is Mary. I want to live with my aunt (on my dad's side) by this summer for many reasons. The reason why I'm with Mary now is becuase my Dad was having problems, and so he gave custody of me to Mary, rather than having me put in a foster home, and chances are, never seeing me again... At Mary's house, my life isn't so great... I'm started to go to her house less, and less..... I only go to her house on the school days just to go to sleep.. Anyways, I want to go live with my aunt and I wanted to know if there's anyway that Mary could say that I couldn't live with her.

My aunt is a very good person, even Mary trusts her, so I can't see why not. I just don't want to live with Mary. for many reasons... So, I need help with how to approach this, I've already talked to my dad and aunt about the situation, now All i have left is asking Mary but I'm afraid..... what if she says I can't??

Answer 1

If she says you can't, you always could have your aunt sue for custody.

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goodluck, hun!

Answer 2

well I'm sure Mary notices you're not around too much, so she probably won't care that you go to your aunt's house.  Just make sure your aunt is okay with it and I'm sure Mary won't care. Just be polite and grateful for what Mary has done for you.

Answer 3

14 is a difficult age, your just beginning to figure out what you want, and it sounds like you have been through enough already.  My advice is to be honest, you have already spoken with your Dad, and your Aunt.  If they both support you, and it sounds like they do... then you must be making an educated decision.  My husband had children by his ex who we have custody of the kids from.  Legally at the age of 12 they are allowed by court to choose who they live with.  I'm sure that age rule would apply to you as well if you ended up having to go the legal route.  You may not even have to go that far however, just tell Mary how much you appreciate her and all she's done for you, and then tell her how you really feel that it would be best to live with your Aunt.  Speak to her as if your an adult because your making an adult decision.  Don't get angry if she says no, she has a right to.  If she says no then have your Aunt petition the court for custody and with you being as old as you are your opinion and what you want will be considered.  Who knows though... maybe things aren't going so well for Mary either and this just may be her answer as well.  She may surprise you and say yes.  Either way good luck honey, and I hope your able to live where you want to live.

Answer 4

well unless marywants to give u up, she has full cusdoty of u