I need help asap!!!!!!?

Question

ok so my dad has cancer and can die any day. im only 13. he can die in 3 months to 1 year. nobody knows. and i have to decide between staying with my step mom after he dies and watch her date again eventually or go live with my real mom and switch schools and leave almost everything behind. and my dad says hedoesn'tt want to break our family up but he also said we could go live with our mom if we want to. if i dont go live with my mom then my grandparents are probably gonna want us to live with them. i need help. btw im a girl. and im so confused. thank you

Answer 1

You poor love bug!  It sounds like you have a lot on your plate... listen, right now, you need to be with your dad and love him to pieces!  He needs you to be with him.  If you have siblings, maybe you should talk to them... or ask your family if they can arrange for you to speak with a counselor.  You might just have too much going on right now to be able to make that decision for yourself.  Try one thing at a time... you can wait to make that decision until after the fact.  I hope you find someone (an adult) who can help you manage all of these emotions.  Maybe someone who isn't' in your family, a teacher at school or school counselor?  Good luck, sweetie... lots and lots of hugs!  

Answer 2

maybe you should go live with your mom then everything will be stable or another good option is your gandparents.♥

Answer 3

I'm so sorry this is happening to you.  I would just enjoy your time with your Dad now and realize that doctors aren't always right.  I don't want to give you false hope because I don't know your situation.  My dad has terminal cancer and was given 3 years to live and has held on for 6 years and is still going strong.  Just try to take it day by day and not worry too much about the future.  When the time comes, you'll be able to make the right decision.

Answer 4

Your dad does not need the stress now, what you are missing is that every day your dad is alive is what counts and the minutes that you can spend with him will be cherished the rest of your life.

These are the memories you will remember, the last days and the time you spend with him are what is important.

Talk to him about your dreams and wishes, what you hope to do in the future, what he has meant to you.  How does he want you to remember him.  

Talk to him.  But to ease your mind...no one knows when somebody will die...there are new clinical studies that your dad may be able to become involved in that could extend his life.

Sure, some types of cancer are worse than others, so make these moments precious.  These are what you will remember the rest of your life.

God Bless,

Dave

Answer 5

Wow. What a tough decision to make. My heart really hurts for you, and I'll pray for you too.

This is one of those questions that is simply too difficult to advise you on without a great deal more knowledge about you and your family. Many people may offer you an opinion, but they're uninformed opinions and that won't help you much.

Don't try to decide this right now. Instead, try to enjoy the time you have left with your dad without the pressure of making this decision just yet. I'm sure it's overwhelming to you - God knows it would be overwhelming to me and I'm long past 13 yrs old. Give it time. I think the best choice will be easier to make in time.

May God be especially close to you in this difficult time.

Lee J