I need help convincing my parents?

Question

I KNOW THIS IS REALLY LONG.

I JUST NEED SOMEONE THAT WILL

ACTUALLY LISTEN TO WHAT I HAVE TO SAY.

I want my lip pierced.

I am a girl.

I am 15 years old.

My parents are very stubborn.

They are afraid of anything different from them or what they're used to.

They think it's trashy.

They think I'll regret it.

They think I'll get a scar from it.

And (something that really upsets me) they think it will be

embarrassing to be around me if I had a lip ring.

To think it's trashy is an opinion, I'm open to all opinions, I understand why they think that. They also think its weird. I understand that too but just because not everyone walks around with a lip ring means it's weird, it just means is uncommon in some places, especially in small towns like mine.

I won't regret it because I choose to live my life without any regrets. I do what I do for my own reasons and if I didn't make those mistakes I wouldn't have learned. So far I don't regret anything in my 15 years of life, maybe I just haven't made that big of a mistake yet, but piercings aren't that big so, I don't think there's a problem. I may sound mature for my age, or I may sound like a smart- A word, that's your opinion.

They think it will get an infection and I will get a scar. There's this amazing product called make-up, it covers imperfections that may be on your face, I am a girl so I own and wear make-up. I am not perfect. There's also Mederma it is a scar product to help clear scars that are on any part of the body. Below the lip? Yeah, I don't see why not.

To tell me I'll embarrass them, really upsets me. I don't want them to see me as the child that they don't want to take places or be around.

Everyone has their opinions and I'll understand completely if you agree with my parents. If you do, please give me legitimate reasons as to why so I can bring them up with my parents and discuss my side of it. If you agree with me, I just want help and the best way I can convince them, or at least open their minds to different things that they aren't used to.

And if I wanted to act like a 5 year old, I can wear a fake one and see how long it takes for them to get really annoyed.

Answer 1

Girl I understand how you feel, but you must admit that you are still under their custody.  You wait till you turn 18 then that is the time you can do whatever you want in your body. You want to have a nose lift its your decision. lol.  No offense girl, ok you have to accept how they are brought up; not modern as you have said.  You can talk to them orr ask help from anybody that they could  listen of your grievances, complaints, etc.  Maybe that could help you explaining to them it is your generation not heir generation of decades 50 's,60's, 70's 0r  80's whatever. You get what I mean? It's a matter of communication with them. Good luck girl!

Answer 2

Okay although at 18 you can do whatever you want think about why you want to get a piercing first. what benefits will it bring to the you right now and the you in the future as an adult.This doesn't stop you from getting a piercing but you don't see respectable people walking around with piercings on them and they also happen to be the ones at moving our society. When they consider you trash they WILL bring you down.

Answer 3

They are your parents and you are the child, need I say more? When you turn 18 and move out you can do what ever you want, but til then you have to abide by their rules.  

Answer 4

*sigh* To be 15 again and to think I was like you at some point. I think you are not going to convince them. I have a daughter, she's 3 now, but if at 15 she asked me to get her lip pierced I would say no. She has to wait until she is an adult and on her own. If you want to act like a gown up and put metal on your mouth that's fine, but in my opinion to be "all grown up", you have to get a job, pay your own bills,rent, gas,electric,t.v.,phone,internet,water, and trash pick-up, buy your own food, and do it all by yourself to act like a grown up. They aren't going to change their minds, so should wait until you're 18, and by then, you will probably change your mind, and think Boy, what was I thinking?!?

Answer 5

Here's what I told my daughters about this kind of stuff. When you are old enough to not need my permission, then you do what you want. But up to that point, since you have to live off of me, my rules apply.

I happen to think piercings, if done right are cool. However I don't think a 15yr old can make that decision, and obviously, since you need permission from your parents, the law doesn't either. I think you are going to have to wait, and don't be surprised if you change your mind.  

Answer 6

Okay look. Your right you want to choose to be different and whatever. But wit till your 18. TRUST ME, cause once your 18 they can't do anything.