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Question

Me and my girl have been living together for a while now and and as of late she has been really depressed.when i ask her what is wrong she tells me she doesn't know.she won't tell me anything.she is acting real sad and I don't know what to do.she seems like she just wants to be left alone for a while.I asked her if I did something and she says no.Everything else seems ok like when she leaves she will kiss me and tell me she loves me.and we still do things together and our s*x life is good,she still tells me that i shouldn't worry that i'm hers forever.but there is something there that I cant put my thumb on.like I never go to her work and today as she was leaving I told her I was going to come see her and she blurted out NO.I told her that I am worried about her and that I am only trying to help her solve whatever this problem whatever it is and she says that she will take care of it when she realizes what it is. Should I be worried what do you think is her problem and if she is cheating why don't she just move on and tell me to leave.will she ever tell me.what is she waiting for?

Answer 1

She could just be depressed....my husband was very depressed when we were dating and they don't know why; they just are. She needs to get some elp. Get her to a dr or something. That doesn't sound like someone who is cheating.  

Answer 2

Offer to send her to counseling, she sounds like she needs someone other than you to talk to because she might be ashamed of something going on at work.

Answer 3

Sounds like depression...

but the only part that's weird is when she said "NO" to you wanting to come to her work.

Send her flowers, give her some space. Let her know you're there while making her feel like she isnt smothered.

Answer 4

Cheating:

if she is cheating, it's possible that she is "confused" as they like to put it, she doesn't know whether to keep doing it, stay with you, or stay with you anyway and continue to cheat. you ask why doesn't she just move on? cheaters are the most selfish people in the world, they always want it both ways.

If shes not cheating:

i highly doubt she's cheating to. it just sounds like she's trying to hide something or is trying not to burden you. you'd be wise to keep your distance and study her clearly. because if you guys are going to get married and every time she has a problem, do you really want to spend the rest of your life with her trying to figure out what the HECK it is that's wrong with her? because as a wife, she should and would want to come to you for help, advice and support.

if i were engaged to her, i think her attitude would drive me over the edge and i would just let her have her free time until she straightens out. nobody wants to be around someone who's always down.

Answer 5

it doesn't sound at all like she is cheating on you. Maybe she is getting harassed at work or something. Definitely try talking to her about it again.

Answer 6

COMMUNICATION IS OBVIOUSLY A PROBLEM BETWEEN YOU BOTH,BUT I THINK YOU SHOULD GET HER TO OPEN UPTO YOU, SHE WILL IF SHE REALLY LOVES YOU,

Answer 7

Maybe she's ready for the next level of your relationship like marriage?

But if both of you decided against it, maybe she just really want a space of her own. Give her time to resolve it on her own. In the end, if she trust you enough, she'll come to you when she needs your strength.

Answer 8

I dont think she is seeing someone else but she definitely has something on her mind that she has to work out on her own, dont be to pushy about it . Women are very complex and when we need to work things out we seem to pull into ourselves for a while and we dont mean to show it in a negative way but sometimes we just need time to THINK... let her work it out and be there for her you never know what is going on inside of her head....

Answer 9

Girls like being sad.  They are often sad that they have nothing to be sad about.  They like movies that make them sad, they read books that make them sad, and they find friends who can share their sadness with them.  They buy sad magazines and like to visit animal shelters so they can be sad about the little puppies that have no homes.

It's sad.