I need help leanrning to forgive people.?

Question

i cant seem to ever completely forgive people. even if i try to tell myself that i do. i always remember and get angry about it. even things that passed couple years i cant forgive. so help.

Answer 1

I think, if you are still angry with them then don't. Don't rush yourself if you are not ready. Wait 'til that time comes and it will be easier for you to forgive them...But holding grudge to others won't make you happy and it will only give you sadness and loneliness.. Learn to forgive and forget.smile.    

Answer 2

i understand what you feel. It's hard to forgive when you are very angry and you cannot think clearly. and even later when you tend to think about it you feel angry all over again. but time is the best healer and when finally u have overcome your anger you will find that soft spot of forgiveness in you.

Shall i tell you an easy way to make plant forgiveness in your mind.just think that "i would have made the same mistake and then what if someone didn't forgive me?" and "people make mistakes.It's ok.everything happens for a reason."

i hope it'll work for you!!!

It would certainly bend you mind even slightly to the optimistic side.

good luck

cheers!!

=)

Answer 3

about 4 months ago, my mom passed away from cancer at 49... and since then i've been a whole different person, in a good/bad way (bad meaning a little depressed/bummed out). good meaning i've mature a lot and become a better person, and i learned that being angry and not forgiving has a bigger toll on you than the other person. when you hold that chip on your shoulder it can really change you. so when you forgive someone, do it for yourself, understand that you are being the bigger person and its time to move on to better things. be an adult, be mature, GET OVER IT. it sounds easier said than done, but believe me, life's way too short to sweat the small stuff. hope this helps.

Answer 4

if it's someone i love i try to remember they ddnt mean any harm.but i've had some ppl who have hurt me,so i cut them off and dont plan on ever forgiving them.but those ppl werent very good friends they were just back stabbers.but i also try not to think about them and i dnt care what happens to them.so i say if they're not worth forgiving then dont.

Answer 5

I have a hard time when I've been extremely hurt by them...  I never forget the hurt...I always wonder - can you truly forgive someone if you still feel hurt by them?

Answer 6

I know, I am the same way.  You have to understand that you aren't forgiving people for their sake, you are doing it for you.  When you don't forgive, that means you are holding onto something in the past and therefore, whether you think so or not, in some way, you cannot move forward into the future. You can't receive the great things in store for your future when you hold onto the past, and that is why forgiving is so important.  

I am struggeling to forgive someone as well. One thing I had to do, was accept it.  Just accept what happened, whats done is done.  Now, everyday I picture this person and repeat 'I forigve you'  a dozen times or more..just over and over...and I imagine myself feeling a release.

Any exercise you can do to let go, you should do... Remember this isn't for them, its for you.  Say 'I relese the need to hold onto the past'  and imagine how you would feel without this on your shoulders... You'd feel a lot lighter.

I pray and ask God to help me forgive... thats up to you.  But you need to do this for you.   Its ok to still be angry, but if that anger is affecting your daily thoughts and life then you need to work through that too.  Its a struggle, but its a big important part of life to forgive, put the past behind us, and move forward...  Maybe try the things I suggested and remember, you're doing it for you.