I need help making friends. (Please no teens or kids)?

Question

I am currently 22 years old. I've tried just "being myself" for the longest time and I've had enough. I am tired of being lonely and having no friends. I have to change. I got a new haircut, bought new clothes, new cologne, new shoes and everything. I just need a new personality.

Does anybody know of any lies I can tell people so that they will like me more? I'm so sick of this sh*t.

Answer 1

Sean,

you have had so many good answers already, people are giving you some good advice here!!! Making friends is tough because you feel so much pressure to conform to an idea of how people want you to be.  Most people can see through this though, so it doesn't pay off.  Until you start to feel confident in yourself this won't work, so start to value yourself!!!

You need to think about where you could make friends- do you have a hobby? perhaps you cna start a new class or activity? (I know it sounds like hard work, but you always start talking to people when you do something new) I've just started a physiology class and I've made new friends already.  

You also need to take the pressure off yourself- making friends does not have to be an instant thing.  You start by making polite conversation like -can I sit here, how are you finding the class...? then maybe your class would start and you wouldn't talk again so at the end you would just say bye and see you next time! After a couple of sessions you would start to get to know them and then you woudl be able to build the friendship from here.

smiling is definitely a good way to go as it makes you appear friendly and open.  Don't worry, just try to be relaxed. good luck!!!

Answer 2

Wear a smile wherever you go. That will attract more people than any other single thing. Just walk up and say "Hi, my name is Sean". They will normally tell you their name after that. Then start talking about them. If you seem interested in them, they will be more likely to listen to you.

You should stick with the truth. Lies are too hard to remember.

Answer 3

Lying is not the answer. Maybe you just aren't looking in the right place.

A good way to form friendships is to have a common interest. Keeping this in mind, trying joining a club, taking a class, joining a team, something that sparks your interest that you think you could share with other people. When you go to these things, try to introduce your self and make small talk. Invite them out for food (another interest that we ALL share) and BOOM, a friendship is forming.

Answer 4

"being yourself" only applies if you are with other people who "like" the way you are. which may not have been the case.

but what activities do you like? thats the easiest and best way to start? gyms, clubs of any sort, etc, there's tons of activities out there. and its an easy way to meet people without any pressure. as for lies that will make people like you more, that will only last a short while until the people don't like you again.

Answer 5

I'll be your friend!

You should never change yourself for others.

Answer 6

Lies only lead to misleading ramifications. You should stick to being yourself. You're probably a decent guy with a good heart. you just need to get out more, try talking to more people at school, have a few drinks at the bar! OH that will do it. go to the bar 24-7. Be open and buy people drinks.

Because when you DO find someone, You;ll have more points with her on the good side, as opposed to pretending being someone you;re not.

Answer 7

Sean, telling lies from the start will only end up with the truth coming out in the end. When I was young, I too was a loner, but by choice. Can you tell us more about yourself? Things you like to do, what type of people you want to be a part of would be a good start. I have two sons, 25 and 27.  I have met a ton of their friends and I know quite a bit about young people and just maybe I can help you out. There are some good people on Yahoo and I`d bet someone can steer you in a positive direction. So, give us more to work with and we`ll see what happens. Later.