I need help... my life...

Question

I need help from nice, sensible people. All through elementary and middle school i was a bully and just always acted up. I committed my first felony at age 13. $3,500 worth of graffiti. Every day through elementary and middle school i got in trouble. Every day. I can't even count how many people i beat the **** out of. I impregnated my 16 year old girlfriend when i was 14. She got an abortion. I'm 16 now, and now i am ashamed of my past. I need help and comfort.

Answer 1

OMG.!wow.ur such a...bully.well, things happened for reason.if u didnt get through all that bad things u wudnt know that was totally wrong.now u have regreted and thats good.forget about the past .start a new life.dont care bout what ppl are saying.cuz its ur life! not theirs.gud luk^^

lynn

Answer 2

I say keep your head up. Start fresh change your ways. Forget the past, its the past, u cant change anything as much as u want to. You are still young and u have plenty of time to turn your life around. Pray God is listening, it will help, promise.. ask for comfort works for me

Answer 3

Jerry, you don't have to be ashamed of your past at all. You have matured into a new person. Use it as a stepping stone in life. Believe me Jerry, we all have failures in our lives and regrets large and small. As we mature, we realize that there are consequenses to our actions and we affect those around us.

What you think is shameful may actually turn out for good, not to mention - who knows who you will meet and may need help or a word of encouragement that only you can give because of your past experience. Keep your head up and know that you choose your future. Take each day at a time and know, but don't fear, that you will make more mistakes in life and that it's ok.  

Answer 4

If you're willing to change yourself and accept that what you did in the past was wrong, then that's the first step. You're probably half-way through high school, but amp up your grades, lose your current friends (if they have influenced you to do your bad things, you HAVE to let them go), I even recommend changing your appearance. If you really want to have a fresh start, change schools. Leave your past behind you, and learn to see everything around you in a different light. I know people will recommend counseling or God, but I suggest befriending someone that you want to be like. If you're truly ashamed of your past, then look to the present and the future for answers. If you dwell on the past, then you will always be ashamed of who you are, no matter how much time passes. It's not too late to change yourself and do something for the good of those around you and yourself.  

Everyone makes mistakes, and if you realize that you have made some, that in turn shows that you have a more focused outlook on life than others. Sometimes, people never realize that they have done bad things in the past, and escalate into something worse and worse. You, however, have shown that you have a potentially good person waiting inside of you. Believe in yourself, and I know that your life will be something you'll live to the fullest.

Answer 5

i'm certain that you've already started the process of apologizing to the people and city that you've wronged.  Now what you have to do is forgive YOURSELF.  It's in the past.  You've realized what you did was wrong and you want to be a better person.  There's nothing that'll get you through that door faster than actively being a better person.  You can even join support groups for people with anger management problems to help you get your act together.  i wonder if you watch a great show called My name is Earl.  Pretty insightful stuff, and funny too.  I wish you the best of luck.  you're already on the right track.

Answer 6

wow... hard life.  i might try to apologize to the ppl u beat up if u no their contact info.  then i might ust try to do good things.   go to  nursing home, animal shelter, help someone with their groceries, etc.  make up the bad with the good.