I need help on adoption?

Question

ok so me and my fienc'e went our sepret ways and well i am 7 months pregnant with his baby and i want my daughter but im only 15 about to b 16 and i want the best for her and i know i cant give her the best so i want to give her to a good deserving family that wants kids but cant have them but the only thing is i dont want the father knowing that i put her up for adoption because he has way to much mental unstabibility plus hes a drunk and all so i was wondering if both parents have to sign the adoption papers and if theres neway i can put her up for adoption but still be in her life ????

Answer 1

I don't know about both parents having to sign the form you should call and make an appointment at your local adoption agency,but their is an adoption wheir you can see you child as it grows, it is called an open adoption. Hope this helps.

Answer 2

If you don't want him to know you're adopting the baby, simply say you don't know who the father is.

Answer 3

The father would have to relinquish his parental rights before the baby can be adopted.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

it depends where you live really here in the uk the father doesnt have any legal rights unless hes on the birth certifcate. so if you dont put him on it then he wouldnt need to sign anything for the baby to be adopted. but before you make the decision just make sure that you are making the right decision and that you will be able to cope with the one you make. if you do decide to go through with the adoption then make sure you have an open adoption that way you will recieve pictures and letters from your childs adopted parents and in some cases you may even be able to have visits. good luck to you and what ever the decision you make just know that your child will love you for just trying to provide the best start in life for them.

Answer 6

If your not married you dont need him to sign a thing. I adopted a child out and wasnt married in 1994 and that was the law then anyhow. I get pictures of my daughter every 6mos. and she is VERY happy and knows she is adopted. Anyhow, sounds like it would be a good option for you. Good luck hon!

Answer 7

There are agencies and counselors (private agencies - you do not need to deal with social services or children's services unless you want to - a private agency can tell you what your rights are and help you find a family that wishes to have contact with you)  that can answer all your questions and tell you what options you have for some contact with your child if you decide to make an adoption plan. Legal issues are particular to the state you live in and you should speak to someone who will guide you in making an extremely important decision. You should (if you haven't already) involve your family (if wise) in your decision process and get some adult advice from people who love you and whom you trust.

Both of my children were adopted - it is the greatest gift and I would give anything to be able to thank the women who gave birth to my beautiful children....

But- whatever you decide it must be your decision and one that you are making for the right reasons. Get good legal advice and some counseling to help you along the way.  Good Luck.

Answer 8

You wrote that you want your daughter, is there anyway that you can keep her? If you can then that is what is best for her-to be with her mother.

Answer 9

Yes both parents do have to sign the adoption papers, and yes there is a way that you can still be in the baby's life. I know someone who gave their baby up for adoption and still gets to spend time with their daughter.  There are counselors in your area that are there to help you through this rough time. You are a very brave girl I wish you the best. Don't be afraid to ask counselors questions that is what they are there for.

Answer 10

DO NOT try to put this baby up for adoption without the father's consent or without terminating his rights

In almost all of the publicized cases of babies being ripped from the only parents they've ever known, it's because of a scenario like this.  The father finds out about the child and wants custody.  Do you really want that for you baby?

Open adoptions can offer a way to stay in the child's life, but be warned that there is no law that says the adoptive parents have to follow through with the agreement.  Most do, but I have heard of cases where they have not.

Good luck, dear.  Do what you think is best, but please do it the legal way.

Answer 11

You have to tell the father.  You once liked him enough to make this baby, so a simple conversation should do.  If he's unstable then have an adult present.  His rights have to be terminated legally and he has to sign that away.

If you want to stay in your baby's life you need to investigate an open adoption.  Many will scare you and tell you that you have no rights.  However, most adoptive parents are not the evil birth mother hating baby snatchers that some around here portray.  Personally, as an adoptive parent, I would welcome the birth mother's presence.  However she made her choice to have a closed adoption.  

If I were you I would have your parents or other family member that you trust help you find some counselors and adoption agencies.  Ask them all  your questions.  Don't be afraid to have them meet your needs, either.  If you give your child you can get certain things like bills, counseling, medical expenses, etc, paid for.

Answer 12

you are very brave. thank you for doing the right thing.

Answer 13

You would have to prove that the father is either unfit to raise a child or have him relinquish his rights, but both ways require that the father have knowledge of it. The only other way is to leave the child at a fire station or the police department. There are many states that will not prosecute if left at one of those facilities. However, the child would be put up for adoption through the state system and you will lose him/her forever.

Answer 14

you can do an open adoption. Pick the family and even see your baby grow up. My advice is to talk to a church or even an adoption agency. Or a lawer, its free to get advice

Answer 15

Ideally both parents should sign the adoption papers, but I understand that is not always possible.  Consult with a lawyer to understand the paternal rights in your state.  Most adoption attorneys will do an intial consult with an expectant mom for free.

http://www.adoptionattorneys.com/

As far as being in the child's life you need to find a couple that wants an open adoption.  This can mean many things from letters/photo updates to visits and phone calls.  Some agencies will not offer anything but semi open adoption (letters/photos).  If this is important to you -- find an open adoption agency, lawyer or look at family profiles on the internet.  Some families would really like a more open adoption, if that is what you desire.  

Realize that committing to an open adoption goes two ways.  It is not just about you being able to see your child when you want -- you need to be prepared to be consistently involved in the child's life on whatever schedule you and the adoptive parents agree.