I need help on getting my 5 yr old potty trained!?

Question

i have 3 kids in diapers 5,3, and 1 my son is gonna be starting kindergarten and i cant get him to go in the potty he'll pee in the potty when i make him he wont go p**p in it i just dont know what to do i tried just not putting a diaper on him and just underwear and he still goes in it if anyones got any ideas and i take him up to the bathroom alot i just dont know what to do anymore

Answer 1

You sound like a busy mom.  Have you picked up any books on potty training?  Go to the local library, I'm sure they have some books that can help you.  Your 3 yo is probably ready to potty train too.  

The fact that he won't p**p could be a variety of things.  Explain to him that the food that he puts into his body takes what he needs and eliminates the rest as p**p.  We do the same thing in our house with the garbage, we get rid of what we don't need.  Tell him that it's ok to sit on the toilet, p**p and then flush.  His body no longer needs what goes into the toilet.  Do you know when he goes (like after breakfast)?  You might have to go with him (to make sure he doesn't get up and leave :-) or stand outside of the door) and gently encourage him to sit on the toilet and wait for his body to eliminate.  Let him flush the toilet.  Don't make too big of a deal out of it, but do give him a hug and let him know that it's great he's going in the toilet now.  You might have to do this several times, because it sounds like there is an underlying issue, which in a way is "normal".   It's scary seeing "a part of you" being flushed (though it's not a part of you, it's what your body doesn't need).

Just be really patient with him.  This is probably traumatic for him too.

If this doesn't work, you really need to get professional help.  

Good luck, momma

Answer 2

what does the pediatrician say? I would have that talk with them ASAP if you havent. He could be having some bowel problems which can really cause some pain and setting on the potty can make it even more painful.

I had a cousin that was not p**p trained when she went to kindergarten but wouldnt p**p in her pants at school. soon after the school year started she started pooping in the potty at home too. He is old enough to at least care what the kids at school thinks.

good luck

Answer 3

WHY isn't he potty trained at 5?

use disposable diapers.  it'll train him quick.  have you gotten him checked by a doctor?

Answer 4

take him out of the diaper completely!!  put him in underwear.  trust me i did it with all 3 of my kids and all of mine are potty trained.  he'll have accidents but, they would rather have clean pants on then dirty pants.  i no i many sound mean, but, he should have been potty trained already.  my youngest is 3 now and i still do that with him.  if he wets himself he takes off the underwear and grabs a clean one.  my kids are 6...4...and 3.  they have all been potty trained atleast 1 or 2 yrs.  he's going to hate you for doing this but, my opinion it's the best thing.

Answer 5

definitely get him checked by the doc, but first sit him on the toilet the entire day, no excuses he cannot and should not get up.  of course you can give him snacks and things, but the entire day on the toilet sounds perfect it may be hard on you but imagine how much he'll be teased in school, from the time he wakes up until he poops in the toilet. and what about the 3 yr old maybe they can learn together.

Answer 6

put them on a toilet seat

Answer 7

My 5 year old son was a late potty-trainer too. He started peeing in the potty before he pooped in it. I tried everything- pull-ups, just putting him in underwear and making him clean himself up, reading books about the potty, sticker charts, money, wrapping up little toys from the dollar store so he could unwrap a gift whenever he went but he didn't seem to care, nothing worked. I even tried punishing him for going in his pants even though his doctor warned me not to- I was at my wits end, but the dr. was right and it just made things worse. So don't punish him for accidents. My son was also going to daycare and didn't even care that everyone else was potty trained. I took him to the doctor and he said there was nothing wrong with him and he actually sees that more often than you'd think and that I just had a hard-headed son so don't feel bad- you aren't the only one. First thing you should do though is rule out a medical problem. I had to keep trying different things and eventually I was able to bribe him with transformers but this wasn't until right after his 5th birthday. Finally one day his grandma told him that if he stayed dry all day she'd buy him a transformer and he just... did it. Then I told him two days, three days, a week, etc. I guess it was a combination of me (or grandma, actually) finding something to use that he thought was worth the effort and him just finally being ready lol. It was a bit of a financial investment- those toys add up but he's been accident-free for several months now so it was worth it! Don't let people give you the "OMG he should have been potty trained a long time ago!!" c**p. They just haven't been there so they don't understand. I was a preschool teacher for 8 years and swore my kid would be the first one in his class potty trained. HA! All children develop at different rates- some kids are delayed in speech and do people say "OMG you haven't taught your kid to talk???" Of course not. This is no different- our boys are/were delayed in potty training. He'll get the hang of it, he won't be 12 and in diapers. Try not to worry too much, I know how frustrating it is. =]