I need help on what to do with my life?

Question

I am a single parent with 3 kids, I have no job, no income coming in (besides the couple of dollars I get from their dad) that money is barely enough for pampers and wipes. My kids are 4, 3, and 7months. So the youngest are with me all day. I have no car and no money to get around on the bus. The bus is $6.00 everyday. My family are people I can not depend on for support they are so fake and triflin. I can't afford daycare to go to work and childcare through family assitance has a 2 year waiting list. No one will babysit my kids while I do anything and I never get a break. I can't afford clothes, shoes, household products or anything. Its just so hard and I have absolutely no way of knowing how to make ends meet. Can someone give advice please.

Answer 1

Try going to a "mother's shelter". They have one in my town there is ran by a church. They help you get on your feet after a hard time. You can find help by going to a church and asking, also you can ask the welfare office or wic office. There are all kinds of things that will help you.

Answer 2

It sounds like you are really overwhelmed and that is understandable.  You do have public transportation where you live, so that is a plus, and you have access to a computer and the internet which is a valuable resource.  Your first priority has to be the care of your children and being a good mother.  You might see what types of home-based jobs are available to you thru the internet.  Some pay is better than "no-pay" but make sure it is legitimate work.  Seek out a single mom support group in your area - they usually provide childcare or child activities during the time of the meeting and it will allow you to connect with other moms in similar situations as you.  Check local churches in your area for this kind of group, too, since many offer extra-curricular courses where childcare is also provided.  Some are free and some are not, but it would allow you an opportunity to get out of the house and interact with other people.  You might see if there is a local 'Samaritan Center' in your area that can help with clothes and other needs you have.

Answer 3

I don't know where you live but where I live there are many programs that can help get you back on your feet. The first thing I would do is try and get some help with food, housing, and medical. There are several government programs that can help with this. I don't know if you are religous, but a church affiliation would really do some good. There are many supportive and helpful people at church, and the larger churches have sunday school, mother's day out, and other programs to help you have a little time to yourself to at least worship by yourself. There are programs here at community colleges that pay you to go to school and take courses. Some of these schools even have onsite daycare. There are also grants and loans that you can get while in college to help with living expenses while you are going to school. Once out of school you will have so many more opportunities to get a great job to feel more independant. Good luck, and know that many other women have been in the same position as you before and you can also get yourself ahead. Wanting to change and better yourself is the first and most important step.

Answer 4

Be creative and use your computer to your advantage.  Create a website.  You obviously have survived the four years somehow and still manage to get on a computer.

Answer 5

You are going to have to find a way to get a full time job.  I'm not sure why you had 3 children knowing that you were financially unstable?  Mistakes happen, but 3?

You also need to get a fast education...not college, but maybe vo tech.  That way you can easily get a job with decent pay.  Most courses can be finished in under a year.

I would also recommend using birth control (perhaps an IUD) until you get back on your feet.

Answer 6

I don't know where you live but location can be a big let down. Small towns are extremely limited for help.

If you would like to email me and maybe tell me around about on your location I may be able to find some things out for you. I am always involved in charitites and community service. you don't have to tell me any personal info just the city you are in and I can see what I can find for you in your area. I am in NY and there are tons of organizations. I am not  at all financially stable but these charities I volunteer for and recieve services from are extremely helpful. Hope I can help. I know the feeling and have been helping others for years. I am 29 with 4 kids 11,10,6,5 days.

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Answer 7

Seek child's support which should help you in giving money, and free food. Also try online-jobs for mums that can't leave home.

http://www.childssupportlawyers.net/

http://onlinejobsreview.com/toppicks.htm...

Answer 8

I dont have anything nice to say so i will leave it at this..

cant afford pampers but have a computer with internet access no less!!!

whatever

Answer 9

Go to your local welfare office. You can get money for shelter, food, health insurance, and cash for other expenses. You can take on line classes through your local community college. Since you are low income, financial aid will cover 100% of your tuition and books. It will also cover some regular living expenses. If you go full time, you'll qualify for the pell grant in the amount of $2,400. It will cost less than half of that for your courses and books. There are also many scholarships for moms returning to school. By the times your little ones are in school, you can have your bachelors degree and have a great paying job. The best part about this is that the grants WILL NOT affect your gov't benefits. Take advantage of the benefits offered to low income moms. Get your schooling done while your kiddos are young. You can work when they're in school. Your little ones need their mommy while they're this young.

Answer 10

depends on where you live.. . . .  but your best bets are start a day care at home so you take care of your childern and those around you, or an online job, or if you can try and find a teen that needs a job to baby sit or waiting on tables while your childern are sleeping or naping but they have to be with you of course, maybe if you sold some things try ebay or you moved into a cheaper place or find a friend but i live in texas and we have shelter type places for people who have little money free doctors, babysitters, gifts, food clothes, but there is a limit but see if you have one near you i know that there is one in arlington texas but idk where yu live so idk if its much help but try asking a church pastor for help!!

good luck!!

Answer 11

Can you start an in home daycare?