I need help on what to say/do to my brother!?

Question

My brother has been dating this girl we have been friends with since we were in high school for about 4-5 months. She is the person that we base the time frame on who she was dating at the time. When they started dating she had literally just gotten out of a 4 year relationship with the father of her 2 children. When I say literally his stuff wasn't even moved out yet. My brother is my best friend in the world, we have grown apart a little as we have gotten older, but we still always call when one of us is having a bad day. The last few months has been really rough for him, he recently was in jail because of a DUI. He's had a lot of things on his plate right now and we haven't talked much over the past few months. Last night he asked her to marry him and of course she said yes.

What upsets me is that he emailed me to tell me, he never called me to tell me that he was going to or that he did for that matter, not that I think he needs my approval I just think that this is a big step in life and the first person you would tell would be your best friend. I haven't called him or responded to him at all. I don't know what to say to him. I am hurt that he didn't tell me about it.

Answer 1

I think you expect him to ask your approval, when really, he's a grown man and he's going to do what he wants.

Answer 2

Tell him how you feel. You seem to have a strong  relationship, don't lose your friendship over this. You're hurt and you have a right to be. Honesty is the best option here, sooner than later

Answer 3

You are going to have to accept the fact that she is now becoming his best friend.

You are his brother and you should be happy for him that he has found love.

Unless you know some reason why he should not marry her, be happy for them and tell them so.

I have 3 brothers and there will be many times in your life when you are not the first one to know things about them.

Some times you may even be the last to know.

remember he is your brother and no matter what this wil never change.