I need help.. or therapy? what do you think?

Question

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over a year. He is 18 I am 17. We lost our virginity's to each other, we are our only serious relationships we've had and we're crazy in love. but maybe a little too crazy. He made me abort his 6 week old baby which rocked my world. I honestly haven't been the same since. Now, about 8 months later, he cant even go to visit his family without freaking out! he works long hours and i slip into a deep depression when he's not around, suicidal even, but when he gets back, i'm fine. it's weird. Am i crazy? Do i need therapy. He also used to hit me so maybe subconsciously I feel as though I need him? I don't know. I need help!

Answer 1

You definitely need to talk to a therapist. This is a very unhealthy relationship and your boyfriend is abusive. If he is hitting you now and it’s only been a year, what will it be like in five years from now? This could turn deadly.  Ask yourself if this is how you really want to spend your life with a controlling abusive person like this or if you think you deserve better.  My mom was abused by my father and luckily she has since left him but she is still scared and so am I from it.  

Answer 2

Ok, first thimg, no honey your not crazy, he is, but you do need help. For starters, it may be hard, but I would dump him, he is abusing, and he sound like the mastermind in the s*x idea. If you stay with him, you will just be depressed. After you get rid of him, if you are still suicidal, talk to a therapist, cuz that is serious buisness. Just remeber, once you kill yourself there is no do over!! And based on your religous beliefs, might not be anything on the other end. I would see wht a therapist says, my adivce, is dump him, but whether you do or not, take up a hobby, keep you busy in life, maybe hang with friends, and just do crazy things (not illegal things though lol) that will cheer you up and get your mind of him, whether or not you stay with him.

Your not crazy, just confused and need some advice, I would talk to a therapist..Remember, not crazy people go to therapists, SMART people who realize they have a problem go to threrapy.

Best of Luck!!!!! =)

Answer 3

Either go to a therapist, get a puppy, or take up knitting.

Answer 4

Yes, I think talking to someone in a therapy situation would be a very good idea.  Just talking to someone can help you think things out and get a better idea of what's happening and what is the best next steps for you.

Answer 5

first of all, get rid of him. he is abusing you like hardcore. If you feel depressed or suicidal, go talk to a doctor. they will help you work things out.