I need help pleaseee?

Question

Okay this is probably goin to be a little long but I need to explain. I'm 19 and I live with my boyfriend at his parents house *yay* ...along with our 4 month old. Needless to say, its hectic around here, not to mension the way his family is. I pretty much can't stand any of them. I also CANNOT stand being in a house without AC....and it seems not to bother any of them it being 9402252835 degrees outside with no air on (its not always off)..thats just ONE thing that engrages me. I really want my bf and I to get our own place...obviously. The only prob, money! He makes good money but due to his freakin car which is really expensive plus really bad spending habits and horrible money management, he never really has money. Being here all the time is making us fight a lot cause his family really bothers me...and he REFUSES to come live with me and the baby at my parents which is 8,000 times better. WHAT THE h**l CAN WE DO? I cant stand being here all day by myself with the baby...although i love him and hes fun..i still get bored. We live in eustis and my parents live in winter garden..and my mom doesnt work so she could watch him if i wanted to go back to work butttt the drive and gas. I suggested we try to find a place in wg but nooo. I dont know what to do Im goin to go crazy over here. help

Answer 1

First of all you should never have moved in with your bf and especially not at your inlaws.  I only have one suggestion for you.  You have a child.  You have to make the child your top priority.  There is no more time for fun, there is just time to support your child and take care of your child.  There is no doubt what you should do.  Move back in with your mom with your baby.  No bf.  It is the only way.  To me it is very obvious that he doesn't love you .  He doesn't seem to care enough about you to get a decent place to live.  All he cares about his himself and his expensive toys.  It is very plain to me.  Either stay there, endure your unhappiness and suffer or move in with your mom where she will help you out and you at least know that she loves you and will care for you and your baby.

Answer 2

Your 19 with a baby. I suggest you really look at your situation, and do you want your future mother in law around your baby constantly? Is your future husband showing any signs of trying to grow up or have his cake and eat it too...living at home, girlfriend, free rent and probably free meals. Why would he want to leave? You on the other hand is responsible, soley, for this child. Why let this child be hot, sweaty, probably cranky because of heat, and under the influence of not only you guys fighting, but living under the same roof with the soon to be in-laws. Girl, you are getting a wake up call. I hope you take it and make a real life for your baby. It sounds as if you have options, use them. If boyfriend doesn't like it, then think of your child, your future, and do you really want it under these circumstances? I say, girl grow up, move on and let the boyfriend know it's time to start being a family and not playing house. Love can only go so far before it fizzles.

Answer 3

Go back home, let mom watch the baby , get yourself a good job and you raise your son. Because the father doesn't seem to be too interested in him or you. If he really loves you and the baby than he'll man up, get a good paying job , a not so expensive car and take care of his responsibilities. I really don't think you have another choice you have to do what is best for you and your son.

Answer 4

go t ur parents house, just you and the baby, you sure you want to get a house with someone who cant manage money?

Answer 5

If you are not happy with your situation and there is a way to make it better then take it.

You sound very angry and frustrated.  I think you should also stop making excuses for him.  

If a man with a child and a wife (so to speak) is not responsible enough to manage his finances so that they can have their own place then you should take your baby and go to your mothers.  

But remember, life with Mama might not be as wonderful as you remembered either.  

If you are able to work and have someone responsible to care for your small child then I say go for it.  

Your man does not seem to think that you and his child are as important as his car and his good times.  

If he is irresponsible with his money now he will be the same way in five, ten, fifteen years.  

I don't think it is his family so much as your frustration with your man, it is just easier to blame the family.

Go or get off the pot!!

Peace