I need help urgently. :(?

Question

last week my boyfriend hit me, my dad found out..my dad hates my bf.

But I don't think ANYONE will understand what my dad has been like the past 2 days since i started speaking to my boyfriend again (well going back out with him). The thing is my dad was saying things tonight like really weired made me think I was going crazy like...well today for instance I stirred the tea more 3 times foward and three times back I have to do it everytime cos i think I have OCD basically I am ****** up and I really feel like dying right now!!! Anyway my dad was like you think I'm a **** and you listen to other people and not me! and he says its little stuff that I do that have "broke the camels back!" I mean am I wrong here??? should I stirr the cup of tea just the way my dad wants me too, even when I exlained to him I have OCD he's like there was no such thing like that in my day it's just all excuses. Then right my dads being working away all day for the past week to earn some extra money and I said Id look after my little sister so that he could do it seens as he hasnt got anyone else to look after hher. Today he came in and I said I'd been cleaning up all day (which I hhad- hovered,washed up,and tidyed up in general) and he was like " well I cant see any evidence for you tidying up all day" and he kept going on about it for ages after. Am I going crazy????? I feel it. I know that nobody can help me physically but I really would appreciate someone to talk to I am soooo down and don't know what to do anymore.

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Answer 1

He may have been talking about the boyfriend situation, not the tea-stirring.

Answer 2

Hi There, First of all you need to get rid of him.. I know it may hurt but he broke the golden rule by hitting you...

My sister was hit by her husband and well it never stopped until my brothers and i stepped in with the help of uncles also...

My Friend has ocd and well and her and i get along well its hard for her but i know her routines..

No man should ever hit a girl.....

As for you wanting to die i think that is the weak way out i know what its like and it does get better...

Seek some real help and dont under any circumstances self medicate your self.( Beer,pills,etc)

Ocd can be slowed down by meds...

My freind folds her clothes like 10 times before putting them away in the chest...

And her beauty stuff needs to be in its own spot and she knows if its been moved..

Well hang in there and dont do anything stupid,dying by one self is a permanent  solutions to a tempoary issue.. Sorry about mis spelled words..Best of luck..Stephen

Answer 3

My dad and I had the same problem when I was about 14. Basically it's all about a power struggle.

Your dad really cares for you and doesn't know how to show it, and he wants to help you make the right decisions and wants to take care of you but he doesn't know how.

Maybe he feels like he doesn't have control over you anymore so he has to compensate by being mean.

That's exactly what happened with my dad.

And everytime we argued I felt like he was being overly rude and I just snapped right back.

But really, all you have to do is RESPECT him (number one) and listen to what he has to say. He just needs to know that you still need him.

I did that and my dad and I got a REALLY good relationship. I'm really glad we did because he passed away last year and I would have felt so guilty if I was still being a brat to him. You should think about that too, because you have no idea what it's like to lose someone until you lose them, and by then it's too late to take all of your petty arguments back.

Answer 4

i dont understand the question

Answer 5

you need to just explain to your dad what you have.  if he still gets mad, then get out of the house more.

Answer 6

Believe it or not, your dad is afraid for you. He is very angry that your bf hit you. He feels helpless in your defense. He would love to rip this boy to shreds for hurting you, but he knows if he acts on it, he will push you further away. In his anger, he attacks the person he wants to protect. He's hurting  you  so he can feel like he is in control of some part of your life.

My suggestion would to be for you and your dad to calmly sit down together and communicate your feelings to each other. Lay down some ground rules, such as...1. No one is allowed to get angry. 2. Nothing is to be said to "hurt" the other. 3. Only spoken from the heart...and so on.

No parent wants to see their precious child hurt. Sometimes we react wrongly, because we hurt too. I'm not saying your dad is right, I'm just saying you need to open the door of communication.

Tread carefully with this bf. You don't deserve to be hit. No man has the right to hit a woman.