I need help (virginity)

Question

Okay.. I have two friends and one of them is planning on staying a virgin until marriage and I respect that because I want to too. The other one wants to wait till her twenties to lose it. But the thing is they aren't really virgins. They have both done everything but s*x and now they are pressuring me too. The farthest I have gone is 1st base and I don't want to go any farther. I want to be a real virgin on my wedding night. I don't know what to tell them though. I feel so left out all the time when they talk about it though. I feel like an outkast and I don't know what to do.

P.S. incase you didn't know/ if it would help we are all girls

Answer 1

Just don't do anything. Im in the same boat. due to my religious I am going to stay a virgin until I get married. Our body is a temple and all...everyone shouldn't get to see it. I know a lot of people I hang with are not virgins and i respect them for not pressuring me into anything...even though I had two classes of friends in hs.

close friends & Good friends I just didnt tell everything...i am sure a lot just dont expect many people to be virgins by their senior yr of hs. But i found out if someone pressures you into things that are not good for you they are not real friends as much as no one wants to believe it.  

And its not ok for any type of s*x as some people wrote. They may clarify but that is something that is also wrong. But most look at it that way to make themselves feel better. And we come to the speaking on the not so religious note.

Disease! You dont want to get one. And no one want anyone that has been all used up.  

Answer 2

If you stand up for yourself and your beliefs when all else about you seems to be saying exactly the opposite you should hold your head high and be proud of yourself. The other girls are technical virgins , but they feel guilty because they are not as pure as you . It is natural for them to want for you to be a technical virgin too , so they get at you and make fun of you and whatever else it takes to get you to be like them , because they no longer can say they are exactly like you . Do not give in to their wants or desires to bring you down to their level, rather stick to your guns and when all is said and done , I would bet a dollar to a donut that you will be the first and happiest married .

Answer 3

stay a virgin as long as u can once its gone there is no going back

if u lose it before u get married just make sure u really love the person

Answer 4

dont let ur friends pressure u into something u may later regret. stay true to ur self don't feel left out they are the ones that should feel left out. it is a special thing to keep ur virginity till marriage. i wish that i would have. hind sight is 20-20 u can't take back ne thing that you do.

Answer 5

You are a virgin if you haven't had intercourse.

If you want to vow to be a virgin until marriage, do it. It is healthier for you physically and emotionally.

True friends do not pressure each other to do things they do not want to do.

If they are so concerned about your life- they need to move on.

If they say everyone is doing it- apparently they have the ability to go find someone else to talk to about these things.

Answer 6

A good female friend of mine waited until marriage which sounded great. BUT the two of them DID NOT mesh in the bedroom. It relly sounds great and honorable but the reality is it makes noi sense. They were married for 1 year and the lack of compassion that he had in the bedroom devastated her and since she had NO idea prior to the honeymoon there was no chance of it working. Making love to your partner is without question the most wondeful,meaningful event you will have. Do yourself and your future husband and do not wait until marriage. If you do then I hope it works out but it could be very dissapointing to find out it just doesnt work in the bedroom.

Answer 7

stay true to yourself.

Answer 8

Your friends are still virgins until they actually have intercourse.

Your choices are your choices. Defend what you believe and be proud of your choices.

Answer 9

well tell them that its good they don't want to try s*x again till their own respective boundaries... and you respect them.. but you don't want to try that once too and you expect them to respect that too... friends are too support not to pressurize its your will... please don't give in for their wish... good luck...

Answer 10

Don't do anything you'll regret just to fit in. BuT!!! time for school.

A virgin is someone who has not participated in intercourse. It doesn't include oral s*x, masteurbation or anything else. Only vaginal insertion. Even anal s*x doesn't mean you lost your virginity. Someone has been lying to you if they say anything else. So if you want to do more than just kissing, feel free too. Because having oral or getting your b***s touched doesn't make you any less of a virgin.

Answer 11

please stay a virgin.and no matter what the others discuss stay true to your self. i to stayed a v until i was married i also didnt kiss our touch a boy . i will never regret my diss

Answer 12

Oh boy, I have definitely been there. My two best girl friends were way ahead of the curve when it came to s*x, and I just wasn't ready to follow behind. What I used to say to them was, "it's your decision what you do, and I'll support you. But don't expect me to do the same thing." They called me "the nun" for a while, but it only bothered me at first. Bottom line, if you're not ready to do it, then don't. Your friends will understand. Also, you can listen to their stories and learn from their mistakes. You'll know what NOT to do when you decide to go for it.

Answer 13

They are virgins until there is penetration. Like with a p***s. It would be a sad life for you to only have kissed someone. Doing everything but s*x IS being a virgin. Unless when the guy fingered them they popped their cherry. Whatever. Outkast has good music.  

Answer 14

you are all still virgins.

stand up for what you believe in and tell them that you haven't gone past first base.

Answer 15

Good for you that you are the only really pure one of the group.  While they still are virgins, they still have done everything that would classify them as s***s and a S****y type person is not someone whom I would want to loose my virginity too on my wedding night.

Stay true to yourself and do what you feel is comfortable.  Also congrats on being one of the few women nowadays who isn't having s*x and giving out blowjobs like candy.  If you are uncomfortable with doing that stuff then don't bother and trust me... it will make you feel a whole lot more comfortable when it comes time to loose your virginity.

One last note, don't let them pressure you into doing something you don't want to!  Its your body, and they can't tell you what to do with it.

Answer 16

Im a guy but I totally respect you decision. I have made the same decision for myself!! Stand strong and dont give in you will regreat it. Temptation is hard, but trust me there are guys out the who will love and respect you because you made the same responsible choice as they did. You are experiencing what will be one of you ultimate sacrifices for you spouse, don't ruin it. Stay strong and goodluck!!!

Answer 17

who cares what they have done. Make your own decision.  but they are still virgins in my mind if they haven't had s*x so i dont agree on that.  and waiting till you are in your twenties in stupid on your friends part.  I believe that if two people are really in love it doesnt matter when they have s*x..

Answer 18

It sounds like you want to stay abstinent till' marriage.

And thats more then just not having intercourse its about being pure.

Sometimes its hard when all your friends are doing it and you feel left out

but I think you should stand for what you think is right.

Just tell them that thats not what you want to do, you want to hold out on going any further.

I also think you should make some new friends

I mean don't disown these friends, especially if their good friends

just make some friends that want to do the same as you so they

can support you when you feel like giving in or when you feel left out

...just so you feel less alone

good luck