I need help with MCS (Middle Child Syndrome)?

Question

Please read everything below. It is all very important to understanding my MCS problem!

I am, obviously, a middle child in a family of three girls. My older sister, Ryann, 18, is four years older than I am. My younger sister, Breanna (Bre), 13, is fifteen months younger than me. Bre and I get along most of the time, but there isn't a moment that goes by when she doesn't insult me. At first it was fun, but now it never stops. Ryann and I are horrible. She and I fight everyday. We can't even stay in the same room for five minutes without a fight coming along. And there is no way we can talk it out. My Daddy is my buddy, but even he insults me sometimes, and he has softened up to Bre (His Rosie-Posie). I am worried he will learn to grow more attached to Bre and not be my buddy anymore. And Mom, like Bre, insults me constantly. She gets mad at me a lot for letting my anger get control over me, which happens a lot.

Please help me by informing me on more about MCS. I would like to know some tips on how to not feel so alone and like I don't belong in my family. And comments, stories, and other information you think would be helpful is very appreciated. Please don't think your answer is too long. I really encourage long answers! Please and Thank You!

-Squirt2313-

Answer 1

You are an individual. the fact that youre an MC is largely not relevant. You will become what you practice to become.  If you want to be happy, seek the time and advice of happy people.  Learning about the dynamics of being a first or last or middle child is interesting, but it is your own behavior which will really define you.

Be more than they expect.  If you feel like you're alone, don't be alone.  If you feel offended, separate, and want to be part of the group, practice solutions.

Keep asking questions, you'll learn more every day.

Answer 2

I know how you feel, I'm also the middle child with two sisters and I know how hard it can be. Before my older sister left for college we never got along. A key to avoid fighting is to just stop, et the other person talk and just sit back. Eventually they will get the point that you don't want to fight with them. If they keep on yelling walk out of the room and calmly tell them that you don't want to argue right now. Talk to your mom about how you feel. Tell her how much it hurts when family members insult you. Tell her that even though they may not be intended to hurt you that they still do and that needs to stop. As for your father, you probably just need to talk to him more. Find more things that the two of you have in common and then do that. Maybe reminisce with him and talk about his past.

Another thing about your little sister, try to get close with her, and become friends. I have to take care of my little sister a lot (she's 14 but my mom is an alcoholic so we rely on eachother). This has brough us so extremely close and its the bst thing in the world to have that one person that you can always talk to. Try opening up to your little sister, ask her how shes doing in school, her friends, maybe tell her something that she may not know about you. I told my little sister just one thing that was bothering me and we ended up having a 3 hour talk about whats been going on in eachothers lives. You just have to be her friend rather than her sister.