I need help with a family issue!?

Question

Okay, so I have a step-dad who verbally abuses me. My mom has just now started seeing that, and she is VERY upset about that. Okay, so here is my big issue. I hate him. SO much! He just recently lost his job and now he takes out all his anger on me. And now, he is lazier then ever! My mom and I will spend hours cleaning the kitchen and he goes and messes it up as if we don't even exist. Every time that I bring it up to my mom she doesn't ever want to talk about it. My mom told me that she loves him, but she isn't IN love with him..

So here is my question.. How do I tell/show my mom that we don't need my step-dad anymore?

Answer 1

show this question to her .. or leave it on the computer randomly and let her "find it" or when your dad is doing his "bad things" be like "see mom!!! we need to go!!!! i can't live like this!!!"

Answer 2

Unfortunately, the decision on whether or not your step dad is need is something that your mother has to decide.  I don't know how old you are, but your mom is a grown woman and will make her own decisions about who she will be with.  If he is abusing you in any manner, start with mom, you said she's seeing it now for herself.  Let mom know that you refuse to take any form of abuse from this man even if it means going somewhere else to live.  

Answer 3

You may not need him, but she seems to.

It's not only your decision, she chose to marry him............you could mention you don't see the point in him, and wish he would totally leave you alone, but the rest is up to her.

Luck

Answer 4

best thing you can do is ask her if you guys can sit down and talk, just make sure he isnt there, that way there will be more privacy. Tell her how you feel and what you think. Who knows she might actually get it if you talk woman to woman. I wish you the best of luck. I know its tough.  

Answer 5

It appears that your mom is having a hard time facing the reality of the situation.   As hard as it can be, try to remain logical when speaking to her about this and not to get emotional...She will perceive you as more mature and respect what you have to say.  Don't bring up any bombshells like getting rid of him right off the bat...just try to get her to see where you are coming from.  If she still avoids talking about it I would suggest bringing in a 3rd party: trusted teacher, family memeber.

Good luck!

Answer 6

get her away from the house where he's not there let her know that you guys don't him because he verbally abuses you and he lost his job so he's obviously mooching to and doesn't respect her either if he speaks the way to her daughter and dosent appreciate what you do when you clean.

as for him just preach the gospel of christ to him and encourage him to look to god for guidance as well as you and ur mom

Answer 7

From personal experience, I can tell you that there isn't much you can do.  Just support your mom and love her.

Answer 8

your mom will react the same way you would

the more you complain about your step-dad the more she will defend him so back off and let her handle it

Answer 9

You need to tell her straight out.  But you need to go through everything your stepdad has done in your mind.  

She IS your mom and she needs to understand that continuing this way will destroy her and her relationship with you.

If this doesn't get through to her when you get older and are able to care for yourself emancipate yourself and live a GOOD life and learn from her mistakes.  Maybe then your mother would get a wake up call.