I need help with an apology

Question

okay let me start from the beginning i got kicked out of my house a year ago for dating a guy that i am now married to i dated him all thru high school and they didnt have a problem with him but when i began getting really serious they didnt like it so we broke up and i was more involved with my family but a couple months later i couldnt stand to be without him and i broke up with him to get my family off my back so he got in a motorcycle accident and i went behind my parents to go see him the day after his accident then my mom sees that im not at school and goes by his house and sees my car there and comes busting up in their house and tells me to come home ...and at the time i am 18 years old.... i come home and she says for me to stay in my room until my dad comes home when he comes home they give me an option to stay and do as they say or leave by friday so i left... now they dont speak to me or anything i didnt even get invited to my sisters wedding..... i really want to apologize but i dont really know how to do it because they did it to themselves and i dont want to miss anymore than i already have i want to be able to call my mom and talk to her i want to talk to my sister and talk to her like sisters should please someone help me this has gone on long enough!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

At this point its not about who should do what.  Sounds like you all are guilty and stubborn.  I would just pick up the phone and call and say I miss you and I am sorry.  I want to see you and be part of your life again.  Its that simple.  You can't control their reaction, but you can control yours.  You state you are married to this guy now.  That may be a sore point, but you have to try.  Someone needs to make the first move.

Answer 2

I think all you can do now, it the won't take your calls, is to write a long letter / email, about the entire situation that happened. That you really did break  up with him and about the accident. If there is no reason that you should not be with him for example, he does not have a job or mistreats you. All you can do is say that you are sorry how everything turned out, but you would love to be a part of their lives again. It's all you can do. I know it must be hard for you not having your family around. I hope everything works out.

Answer 3

If he is not a danger to you or them than there is no reason for them to have acted out. If anything you can apologize that you went behind their back but that's it. I know you must miss your family, I can relate, but you should not have to compromise yourself in order to gain their acceptance that is not what love or family is about. I know the saying that says "blood is thicker than water" but you know what sometimes it's not. Best of luck.

Answer 4

You need to call you mom, if she doesnt answer leave a message. tell her this, What I did a year ago was wrong and I am truly sorry that I didn't listen to you and that I lied . I learned that I dont know everything like I thought I did and I'm really sorry that I screwed up so badly. Please forgive me! I love you and I miss you very much. You have taugh me so much over the years, I just want you to know that.

Something along that line will do you great, admitting you were wrong takes strength,courage and growth you cant go wrong there when trying to apologise.  It is also important to include that you love them.

I hope this helps you.

Answer 5

im so sorry.

try writing a letter to them. its sometimes a lot easier to get things out on paper. and then you can't hold anything back, where as if you were talking on the phone and you didnt agree with them you might just hold your tongue. you know what i mean? if you write a letter theres no way they could interrupt you and argue back, until they are done reading it and have fully heard your side of everything. Tell them that you did what was best for you and you wish that they could see that and you really would like to get back to a family connection.

:/ i hope i helped. good luck!  

Answer 6

Invite your sister or mom (whoever would be most likely 2 forgive) out to lunch and tell them you regret how things went, but you still love him and cant ruin that. Then tell her you want to be a part of things and start by attending your sisters wedding. Also let your husband know what is going on and maybe have him try to get to know your parents so they can see he actually is a great guy. Good luck!

Answer 7

I think you should call them up and ask them to come over and tell them u want to apologize for all you've done wrong...just tell them u really liked him and that they are ur family and u need their support and that u luv them and tell them that u were really worried about him after the accident and i think they should come to their senses...if not im sorry...good luck

Answer 8

I'm sorry to hear this but if you can just knock on their door and talk to them leave ur wedding ring at home and go by your self and just try to tell them what happened because that is not fair that you aren't part of your own family!

Answer 9

Say sorry and bring the past back from grade school or whatever.itll probably work.

Answer 10

maybe your family has a reason. Tell them that your sorry and say it meaningfully. After that also tell them what you feel so you can understand each other.

Answer 11

sounds like your parents dont want to see you grow up. but personally i think that if they dont want to see you happy then **** it. its understandible that you would miss them but hunny if they are your parents they are supposed to love you and it doesnt sound like they are so upset about you leaving but hey go see your sisters if you are over 18 then you can do wht you want.

hope every thing works out between you guys

Answer 12

wow well what doesn't your family like about the guy?