I need help with finding a way to ask her out?

Question

There's this girl at my church who I just realized I have a massive crush on her. We are really good friends and I'm worried that would be messed up if I ask her out. She goes to a different school than me so I don't know if she has a boyfriend already. I was going to ask her sister if she has a boyfriend and make her promise not to tell. My church went to a baseball game last night and I was sitting with her and I was always making her laugh. I could feel the chemistry and I really want to ask her out, but I don't know if she's single or even allowed to date.

What do you think?

Answer 1

I think you should be friends with her first!!! =)

You said before that you are really good friends, but you still don't know if she's dating or anything. I think you should continue seeing her in church and all those church sponsored activies and stuff so you get to know her better, and so she gets to know more about you. That way it'll be easier for her if you ask her out cuz she'll know you and well....that's my opinion and hope I helped! Good luck =)

Answer 2

well try to find out if she's single...and if you can't..just ask her out...wut have you got to lose??...besides...girls don't usually ask guys out so she may like you..but shes like too shy.....and if shes not single...then if she breaks up with that other guy...she might go out with you...i would say do it...

Answer 3

See if maybe your families could do something together. Like a lunch after church, that way you are getting to be with her family and yours, so  you are both relaxed. There is nothing wrong with letting your intentions be known and if she has a boyfriend she will let you know. As long as you are respectful you should be fine.

You know you could also ask her father ( i know a little intimidating) but, it would earn their respect and maybe even impress her. At the age of 34 (yes i am an old woman) my husband asked my Father for permission to marry me. We have been married for 11 years. Respect goes a long way.

Answer 4

Hey buddy this happened to me too. The important thing is to make sure you both value each others friendship. If you have a crush you should wait a little bit just to make sure its not just your hormones, but you like her for who she is and how she acts. You seem to have a connection with her so you should talk to her often. When you do ask her if she likes you, or when you ask her out, make sure her parent know about it, being secretive is bad, and could lead to trouble.

Answer 5

I think you should definitely ask her out. Theres nothing worse then waiting and waiting for someone to ask you out. Just be like "hey ******. i was wondering, and i totally understand if you cant or something but, will you go out with me?" the worst that can happen is she says no or that she has a boyfriend. i think you should definitely go for it. cause a girl can wait, but she cant wait forever.