I need help with my 14yr son he wont go 2 school he dsnt listen im mom bt nt in hme?

Question

im currentley living in a sober living program and my son wont listen to no one he is going to be held back in the 8th grade im involved in his life i made alot mistakes but i truly see my son going down the wrong path please can some one help

Answer 1

you need to show him what he has to do.  my mom kicked my booty everytime i did somehting wrong when i was younger and now i have so much respect for her. and i'm thankful for her for being so hard on me, because she made me a respectful human being.

you have to show him who's boss, dont let him get away with things

Answer 2

Okay so he is going to be held back in the 8th grade, the world isn't going to end because of it.  Your son is behaving in the manner he was taught to behave.  Obviously there was no discipline, no rules no consequences for his actions.  His behavior is not his fault.  Children learn from their parents how to behave.  At his age there really isn't much you can do other than have the police pick him up every time he misbehaves.  In another two years he can walk out of school and not return if he wants to, in another two years he can leave home if he wants to and be an "emancipated" teen.  He has already been going down the wrong path...he has been living on it his entire life.  I suggest you try counseling for both you and your son.

Answer 3

Could it be that he's being bullied at school? I would sit him down in a confidential talk and ask him about that. It's important that he knows he can trust you. Good luck!

Answer 4

I knew a 13 year old like this and his problem was that he couldn't read or write and the teachers didn't have time for him.

He wanted to go to school and then he just didn't care anymore.

It's a shame too he was a good kid, he still turned out ok but if he had the smarts I know he could go places.

Answer 5

What ever trouble he gets himself into, don't bale him out. I don't mean abandon him, but don't take away the consequences. He needs to learn now, when he is young and before he becomes an adult. Try some Love and Logic Parenting.  http://www.loveandlogic.com/

also,

http://www.loveandlogic.com/articles.htm...

Answer 6

My heart goes out to you. Both of you are hurting and need help. It sound like he might need therapy or more therapy. He is very trouble. Don't beat yourself up so much. Continue to do the right thing, get healing for yourself. Pray for your son and have other to pray for him. He is so precious. Just know that God see your tears and knows your heart. Its going to be okay. Stay Focus and stick with your plan. It will work. These are touch times. Be Blessed.

Answer 7

walk him to school and sit in class with him if thats what it takes. have him visit a prison and let him see what happens to trouble makers.

Answer 8

I don't want to say this, but he might have to take the wrong path just to realize what you've been tryin to keep him from. Explain to him that you are tryin to keep him from making the same mistakes you've made and that you want the best for him. Maybe once he fails the 8th Grade for the second time he just might then realize he's needs to listen to his mother and other people who try to keep him from doing worng.

Answer 9

thats when beaten his *** come into play

Answer 10

It seems like you don't have a very stable life, why don't you stay out of your sons life a bit more so he can have some stability?  In the end, you have to do what is right for him.  In an ideal world, you could both forget the past, but let's be honest, that won't happen.

Good luck.

Answer 11

Legally your son is required to go to school until the age of 16. The best bet would probably be to put him on probation. If the police has to take him to school everyday, so be it. Your son needs to receive the proper educational opportunity. Get in contact with the school and come together with a plan. Your in charge of your child's future.

Answer 12

well i know where you are comming from i have a 10 yr old that hates school but he does have learning disabilities and he struggles in school i feel he could be upset at you and resent you for the problems in his up bringing and this is why he does this it isnt proven maybe get hom soem counselling so he can talk to someone and let them know how he feels im not condoneing your parenting we all make mistakes it takes the strong people to be able to get help for thie mistakes but i think he may need a stable environment and maybe some counselling and maybe he does have a learning disability it doesnt hurt to check it out best of luck

Answer 13

show him around a prison or what happens at war thats what happens to trouble makers its funny in their opinions now but when there in prison for life or fighting in afganistan etc was it worth it being the classclown