I need help with my 3 1/2 year old girl and potty training. She goes to the potty but not #2, she wants pullup

Question

I have tried everything, refusing pullups, dd does not agree to do that, he says that's mean, how will we get her trained if we don't do something, dd says she will when she's ready, I want her to go to PK when she's 4! Help!!! I asked if it hurts, she says no she's not constipated, just doesn't want to.

Answer 1

This is what I did with all three of my children:  wrapped up a bunch of very cheap tiny presents (for the boys, it was matchbox cars, among other things; I forget what I used for my daughter--she really wasn't as much of a problem as the boys in this respect) and put them on top of the refrigerator.  Told the child that after each #2 in the potty, he/she would get one of the presents.  This really did the trick.  And it wasn't hard stopping the presents.  They weren't that amazing anyway, and once the child got used to using the potty, he/she was willing to continue without them.

P.S. I just remembered that I once asked my stubborn daughter when she was going to go #2 in the potty.  She answered, "Never, never, never."

However, as I said, she did end up changing her mind.

Answer 2

I think you just need to back off and let her do it in her own time, if you keep pushing and pressuring her then she might start refusing to go completely to the potty or toilet.

When she does a #2 in her pullup take her with the pullup and tip it into the toilet so she can see where it goes, and get her involved by flushing the toilet.

Also let her see you go to the toilet as gross at that may sound but if she is scared of the toilet as many children can get then seeing mum on there might help to make it not as scary. And when she does eventually go to the toilet make a HUGE deal about it. Make it all a happy and enjoyable experience for her otherwise it might make her regress and take a lot longer.

Another thing to try also is a chart she can put a sticker on when she does go and when she gets say 5 stickers she gets a surprise (toy or whatever). Also could be a privacy thing some children get very shy going to the toilet.

Good luck with it all and hope i have helped in some way.

Answer 3

If she's definitely not constipated - maybe humiliation before her peers (at preschool) is what she needs to motivate her to get toilet-usage under her belt.  I was the same, I was 4 before I stopped messing my panties once and for all.

Answer 4

If she is big enough to tell you no that she just doesn't want to then I think you will have to find a way to make her want to. Why not try a reward, an immediate reward or weekly big reward. Small things on back of potty helped with mine or the  promise of ice cream on Fridays if she went all week. It may come to where you don't leave her with the option. Throw the pullups out, if she doesn't have them then she very well can't use them. At that age I would definitely try to get her out of them soon. Don't let her be the boss because she may get used to it and try it with everything.Good luck

Answer 5

Get rid of the pullups. She's 3 1/2 years old! Too old for pullups.

Answer 6

put her in a daycare or a play school. once she sees others kids doing it, she will too.

Answer 7

i agree use a reward system  and try that if that works and even try the bedwetting alarm thing

Answer 8

show her that you do it in the potty.  It worked with my daughter who is two.  Now every time she goes p**p in the potty she says "mommy look at my p**p"

Answer 9

Every child is different i have a niece that's not quite 2 and is potty trained and has been clean for a while now,and insist on wearing knickers than pull ups, have you tried putting your little girl in knickers ,even  if at first you have to change her a few time a day, she will then start to dislike messing in her knickers...

Answer 10

my son wouldn't go #2 til he was 3 1/2. remember that sometimes it takes girls longer. i tried everything to make him go but nothing worked. let her do it when she's ready cuz believe me she will. one day out of the blue my son went #2 without me even telling him. just back off. she'll do it on her own. i promise!!